How do you balance being a carer, a partner, a parent and a full-time worker?

[joanofarchitrave]

I don't know.

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Who is suffering? My son, my husband, me, my colleagues?

Oh wow you have your hands full. I'm in similar situation. I have three young dc's. And husband with chronic illness but cannot work as am full time carer. It'd hard but I get help through my health visitor she's been a god send. And gp keeps me sane x

Aw who supports you? I bet you do a fab job! What do your family say.

Hugs!

My word, sounds like your plate is full. How old is your son?

Do you ever manage to get any time for yourself?

Do you have family members near by to help you out?

You know when you're in a plane and they give you the safety talk? The advice they give is to sort yourself out so you can assist others.

I bet you need to be massively organised and really motivated to get through your day, do you eat well, drink plenty of water, take notice of health issues and deal with them, exercise, sleep when you can, and laugh occasionally?

Just do your best, for yourself as we'll as everyone else.

thank you [am now sober but still wondering this]

my son is 9 so things are a lot easier there - except he needs more of us than he gets

i do get time to myself, i can pretty much have it when i like, except that my dh will not step up to fill the parenting gap left by me having time.

So sorry that your dad has died unfortunately You sound as if you manage a lot more than me, a lot more positively (without for a start).

It's a bit sad these days talking to old friends - we end up talking about our and our parents' health problems. I suppose that will only get worse...

Is there someone else in your sons life who can give him some time? Is there a nurture group at his school?

I struggle with the idea of my parents getting older and being unwell, there's that awful feeling of vulnerability and loss.

Does your ds do any after school activities my dd has just started brownies its her get away for a few hours ds has friends in our close and youngest too young atm but am getting him in nursery in September few hours a week so they all get a bit of umm 'normal' maybe scouts or cadets or something?