I split from my husband last summer and moved out from our joint house, since then he's been living in the house and paying the mortgage with his savings. He was studying a degree when we were together and finished it before I left but he's now stuck in what I think is a depressive, anxious, limbo state which is unsustainable and I don't know how to help him.
He is afraid of everything, there are no jobs in the field he trained in and he won't apply for jobs that he thinks he couldn't cope with (i.e. anything customer facing or in environment he thinks could be stressful).
Added to this is we have cats, all of which live with him and he refuses to part with them. I think he should move back to his home town to be near his family and friends but he can't do that because of the cats (he'd have to rent short-term and he can't find any cat-friendly lets).
Now I've had to tell him today that I need to think about selling the house because I'm trying for a baby. He took it relatively well but said he needed a few days to process it. He also let on that he's hardly looked for any jobs in the last few months.
He's seen a doctor and been taking Citalopram for about 2 months but it doesn't seem to be helping him. He's seeing the doctor again soon so I hope he gets some better treatment/advice.
I wish there was something I could do to help, I feel responsible for him in a mother/child way, and I'm worried that he might do something terrible because of the apparent futility of his situation.