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I just need a vent, sorry.

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Puddlelane · 04/05/2013 18:28

So I'm not having a very well (mentally) day.
My doctor doesn't think anti depressants would work although said I could have them if I wanted- wtf?

So anyhow I function ok most of them outside I'm fine, hold it together am quite comfortable being mummy and we go about our daily routine fine.

DH keeps trying and I quote trying to make me snap our of it by saying IMO quite mean things!
I'm not fun anymore- apparently this is helpful? Because I should be able to see that I was fun so therefore as I was fun I can be fun again.
He also said he was happier at work than at home :(
Needless to say this isn't actually helping or snapping me out of anything. Probably just pushing me further under.

I have a nice enough life, I'm lucky I know that much but I can't be happy or fun. I'm too serious, but I have 3 small kids of course I'm bloody serious!
I can be fun for them, that's much easier.
I don't know what I want anyone to say tbh
I just want to be happy but I don't know how I rarely even bloody smile.
I'm anxious, stressed, worried, miserable.
I'm functioning fine though, it's just the inner turmoil. I don't even want to talk, heck I can't even bring myself to think about the things I'm anxious about.
I don't need an anti depressant to numb me or help me think more clearly. I just want to be happy not fake it just be smiling and not to feel like this anymore.
I need a maternal cuddle

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Showtime · 04/05/2013 21:32

Agreeing your DH's not being helpful, but isn't there anyone else you could spend some time with? Three tinies are lovely, but also a great deal of endless work, and everyone needs a short break occasionally.
Is there anything you could do to amuse yourself say once a week, to give you some me-time again?
Coffee with a friend really works, so would this be possible I wonder?

Puddlelane · 04/05/2013 21:47

I'm really lucky I do have coffee with friends- mummy friends and tbh it's so manic with 3 about and being very honest there is no way I would tell anyone at all in RL how I'm feeling, I think it would drain me too much to off load everything.
My babies come first before everything, I don't think I could function if I overloaded.
:( I can't help myself I don't think.
Thanks so much for replying, nice to know I'm not alone

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Puddlelane · 04/05/2013 21:48

I have no me time, rarely, very rarely. Problem with me time and just time in general, I'm always on guard. Permanently.

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