Citalopram

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Does anyone have experience of Citalopram? I've been prescribed 20mg a day for depression (started as PND last year and hasn't stopped) and reading the potential side-effects has got me a bit worried! (Maybe taking the drug will stop me worrying about the side-effects? >hollow laugh

hesneezes, is this your first baby? You sound just like me after ds1 My dh is a lot older than me so could cope with it but it was very very hard.

If it was me I'd take the citalopram. You'll get lots of support on here and I found it good last time. It's very hard stopping this negative behaviour as it takes over and spirals out of control. The littlest thing seems like a nightmare and they can't do right for doing wrong. Your imagination also takes over or at least mine did. It's so very tiring having a young baby too and this takes so much out of you both.

yes this is our first baby and he was planned and very much wanted. I have no regrets about becoming a mum but the anxiety and negativity means that whatever dh does to help is never enough. he knows he needs to try to control his temper better but he said that me throwing my ring at him made him so upset he couldn't control his anger. I'm scared he'll do something worse next time ( like kicking a door or something) or is this just my negativity expecting th worst and then causing situations which provoke him? hell, i'm in such a mess. Really think maybe i should start me ADs tomorrow? do I tell him about starting them?

If you expect his support in trying to treat your anxiety then yes, I think you should tell him. This is about your relationship, not just about you. Sitting down and actually talking about how you feel, and what you're going to do about it, may give both of you a bit more insight into how the other one is feeling. Lying to him about it won't do your relationship any good at all.

Apart from anything else, the side-effects in the first couple of weeks can make you feel quite poorly and he needs to know that you won't be up to much certainly for the first few days.

i have told him i am going to take the ADs and that they may make things worse before they get better. he says he will try to help but he always says that and then when i annoy him, what he says just goes out of the window. I'm scared that taking them could cause me to feel so bad to start with that i end up saying something to him which will make him angry with me. I've told him i'm worried about this and he says he'll try to stay calmer with me but he's said it before and it doesn't alwys happen. i want the ADs to help not make things worse.

Does he actually understand what anxiety and depression are, or does he think it's something you can just snap out of? I know that it can put a lot of pressure onto a relationship, and he may find it very hard to deal with, but mental illness like anxiety or depression is just that - it's an illness. Like diabetes or asthma or arthirits ... the pain and suffering of anxiety is no less real just because you can't see it on the outside. In fact they may be worse, because people can forget about them and not make allowances for them as a result - which may be what your dh is doing.

Could you find some books or websites about anxiety-related illness and get him to read them with you?

he says he understands and we have read about it before. He does try but sometimes he says he can't deal with me and it makes him frustrated. He does try but it seems like if i seem ok ofr a day or 2 then he thinks i'm better. Whereas i'm actuall just makig a huge effort but feeling much the same underneath. I have explained this to him but maybe it's impossible to understand. Most people seem to be able to identify with physical pain, but mental pain seems ot be harder for some to understand and deal with

thanks wigwam. I looked up some stuff and found a website which explains what anxiety/depression are, the symptoms and how to deal with them and showed it to him. I talked to him about how if i had a broken leg, he wouldn't expect me to run, so if my mind's not well, he should expect me to behave rationally. He seemd to be annoyed by what i was saying, i think he thinks it's just an excuse for my bahaviour

Has anyone noticed periods being heavier when on Citalopram - i'm on 20mg per day

Hi is anyone else on this thread still taking them?

I started 5 days ago and I've had no appetite, felt so much better though and more energy until today. I feel exhausted.