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DD has dangerously ill friend

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molliec · 07/03/2013 10:54

DD has known this girl since year 7 (now in Year 13 and in separate colleges).
They were good friends as we lived next door. She now lives down the road with just her mum and little brother. They got back in touch recently and I was quite pleased. Now, however, I have found out that this girl has been very violent to DD. Two head injuries; both resulting in loss of conciousness and one hospital visit last night. There are many bruises, especially around her neck. I am terrified and made DD promise she would not go to the house again, but the friend pleaded and was upset so DD went round there resulting in the hospital visit last night. I have told no-one in the family as DD is still protective of her friend saying that she is ill and is claiming to hear voices telling her to do these things. However, DD also says that when her mum or brother are around she behaves normally. Either way she is claerly not well. Telling my husband or the friends family would cause massive problems for DD as we live so close and husband would go mad if he even got a hint of this. The falls are being ut down to DDs chronic pain condition of her legs but this is getting harder to cover up. How can I make her stay away from this girl? All she says is that she is her friend and she must help her!

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Cluffyfunt · 07/03/2013 11:01

You are the parent and have a duty to care for your dd.

You absolutely cannot let your dd see this girl again!

I would tell your DH what has happened and report it to the police.

Why are you not protecting your dd?
I can't fathom why on earth you are not protecting your child. Confused

bootsycollins · 07/03/2013 11:17

Your the adult, you need to deal with this properly and take charge and do the right thing by your daughter, why would you even consider helping your daughter cover up her friends behaviour?.

Your daughter isn't always going to like the decisions you make, tough. You need to demonstrate how to deal with situations in an assertive, strong and confident manner for your daughters sake not help her cover up what's happening and hope it will sort itself out.

bootsycollins · 07/03/2013 11:22

I really hope your a troll so this situation isn't happening. I'd be straight round there, she's hurt your daughter so badly she's lost conscientious twice and you haven't even talked about this with your husband in case it gets a bit akward with the neighbours?.

NatashaBee · 07/03/2013 11:26

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working9while5 · 07/03/2013 11:30

Oh come on, seriously? This is just ridiculous. She is your daughter, she has been attacked. Who is your responsibility to here? Why are you covering it up? You think it's a good idea to keep abuse secret just because the person perpetrating it is unwell? Sorry... this doesn't seem real.

binger · 07/03/2013 11:45

Call the police, she may well be ill but who's going to help her if everyone is covering up. You need to protect your dd.

molliec · 07/03/2013 13:53

My DD is 18 and gave me her word she would not go near this girl again! For the first time ever, she broke her word. I have always protected my child but I cannot force into making acomplaint - she wont and I cannot follow her all day. I know you think I am the worst mother out there but this is as tricky as any domestic abuse situation

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MrsSham · 07/03/2013 14:14

Tell DH

Tell the police

Tell the girls mother

No other choice, surely, what will you do when she takes it to the next step and may injure or even kill your DD. not something I would be prepared to not protect my own DD from so as not to upset anyone.

Do something now. You are denying them both help and support.

MrsSham · 07/03/2013 14:19

I would suspect if an 18 year old girl was presenting themselves frequently to A&E with injuries as you suggest the hospital will at some point be talking to someone about this, possibly the police anyway, so it may be best that you take control of this situation.

bootsycollins · 07/03/2013 19:31
Biscuit
nenevomito · 07/03/2013 21:01

Assault is assault. Why on earth wouldn't you go to the police if someone assaulted your daugter so badly that she ended up in hospital.

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