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Not sure how to get help

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RainyAfternoon · 07/03/2013 10:53

I think I might be depressed but I don't know where to start or if a doctor could help. I seem to have lost control in life and I don't seem to be able to keep the house tidy or keep on top of the children's activities/school homework etc. Everything seems to take a long time for me to do and I keep wondering how other people manage to keep a tidy house etc. I had two miscarriages last year - the last one in December. They were both very early, but still made me sad as I am already 41. So maybe it's just passing feelings, but I'm worried I've been so low for so long since last summer. I have two children 5 and 3 so I should be happy, but I keep thinking about my DS going to school in September and how the preschool years will be gone. I've put on quite a bit of weight as well, but somehow can't work out how to get rid of it and do some exercise. I know life would be much easier and satisfying if I planned activities each day for the children, and I used to do this, but now I don't even seem to be able to keep enough food in the house. I also broke my wrist in January so it's been difficult with that. I work part time but from home so it's a bit hard to keep perspective on my work as I often get disproportionately upset when I have made a mistake - I think that wouldn't happen if I was in the office, but we can't move to where my office is and I wouldn't be able to find another job like this as it's very specialist. My husband works away for 20 days a month, so there's not much scope for me to slack, but I seem to anyway. What makes me worried about finding help is that DH had a very difficult childhood losing his whole family in an accident, but has come through and got on with his life. It seems a bit pathetic in comparison if I can't cope with the ups and downs of normal life. Would this be the type of thing a doctor can help with or maybe when it's spring life will seem easier?

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nenevomito · 07/03/2013 11:37

You do sound depressed. Depression is an illness and its not based on what kind of life you've had or anything like that. It can be triggered by stressful events and two miscarriages would send anyone down and I can't imagine how hard that must have been for you. {{hugs}}

Its really good that you've recognised that things aren't good, but its time to consider getting some extra help. Please go and make an appointment with your GP and talk to them about what is going on for you now.

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