PND affecting toddler?

[Louise85]

I saw my GP today who has given me meds for PND (although she didn't ask any questions - I said I thought I was suffering with it and she said ok, here's a prescription)...so hopefully it will start helping soon - but what I'm concerned about is my toddler. I don't want to play with her and some days I just canb't - I want to be a good mom that sits and does something with her everyday (with new baby in the house I know this is NB)...but even just looking for ideas drains me. And my toddler seems to be getting depressed as well - today she just wanted to stay in her pj's and lie down. She's not tired, she's just moping around like I do. And wen I've taken her to soft play area, she doesn't play like she used to - she says she's too tired and just wants to sit. I don't know wot to do :-(

hello.
I understand what you are going through is very difficult, especially when you have a toddler.
Sometimes Drs think tablets are the answer, but my personal view and experience is that they are not the answer. You need to look at all the aspects to why you feel this way. Try and see if there are local groups where you can talk to someone about the way that you are feeling.
Myself I was lucky to have a charity organisation involved with both my children when they were toddlers.(SURE START).
My children did pick up on the way i was feeling and they still do, as they have got older I have tried to expalin to them about the way I feel, they have both been very understanding.
your toddler will also be getting used to and adjusting to having a sibling in the house. Life will have canged for her as well.
Most importantly do not start to think you are a bad mum for the feelings you have. It does take a while to adjust. you are never alone.

Thanks 1pinkflamingo - I do feel very alone with all this, and although I have suffered with depression in the past - this is the worst its been and I'm really struggling to cope. We've recently moved countries, so no friends or family to just have a cup of tea with, or to take one of the kiddies for a while. My husband is great, but he really doesn't understand depression and how its making me feel...., and I can't find any local support - although I will chat to my HV tomorrow. I think these chat rooms might be my only way to get support.

Are you in the UK?
how old is your toddler?

Yes, I'm in the UK - Northern Ireland though, so a bit out the way. I have a little boy 6 weeks old, and my little girl is 2 years 10 months. She's gone to playgroup by herself this morning for the first time - starting 3 mornings a week and I think it will help take the pressure of entertaining her.

I think you need to be open and honest with your HV today about how you are feeling.
She hopefully will have lots of ideas.