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[SherbertDipp]

Hi I'm new and have PND. My ds is 5 months old, and I have had PND since he was 3 weeks old.
The birth was traumatic for us both, and the poor mite screamed around the clock for 3 months! I was ill and not up to surviving on no sleep, and something had to give....my sanity!!
I am having lots of support and getting through this. I havent had a panic attack since...i cant remember!
I still have trouble sleeping and feel panicky when I'm on my own with him, but I am coping. I have even laughed again on occasions!
I hope I continue to get better, as my ds is just scrummy and I want to appreciate him!

Hi Oh poor you. I had PND after both of my children and the 2 years ago I had really bad depression and suffered panic atacks. Wont go into what I went through but with the help of family and friends (friends I didnt know I had) I recovered and now love my life. Can/do you get out. This was the hardest thing for me was getting out and meetin new people but it has made a huge difference to me. I know you will see light soon. take care xx

Hang on in there Sd and welcome to MN! Are you getting support for your PND? There are lots of posters on here who have been through similar, so I hope you get the support you need

I really feel for you, i remember how hard those first few months are and how crap you can feel. I was never diagnosed with PND but am convinced I had it for a while - I totally reiterate singy's advice about getting out - I would set myself a target of going for a walk every afternoon and it really did make me feel better. I remember not being able to "face" anyone some days and just used to sit on a park bench with ds in his pram watching other people's kids playing, wondering if I would ever be able to chat to the other mums in the park. I think a lot of it was to do with the fact none of my friends had babies and I was intimidated by other Mums I met who seemed to have it all sussed! It's a kind of no-man's land where you feel a bit isolated for a while, then eventually realise the other Mums are maybe just as panicky as you are! it certainly started to improve for me when he slept more and I was able to recuperate better.
I distinctly remember crying all night 48hrs after his birth because I had no idea how I would be able to ever look after him. He's now 8 and has a little sister and I find it hard to believe I ever felt like that as they are my world and I can't imagine not knowing what to do with them!
Please give yourself time and space, block out anything that makes you feel more stressed and unhappy. It will get better with time and you will enjoy ds very soon!

Here here thirtysomething. Well said. Please follow this advice. It does work and you will start to feel better.

Just wanted to say welcome to MN, I hope you find something on here to laugh at too, there are some fabulous people here who can help in all situations

Where in the country are you? Perhaps you could find a meetup?

Hi-welcome to Musmnet

Wow a lovely surprise to get all ur supportive messages!

I have had a CPN (they thought i was suicidal at first), and i have been on a course run by HV on PND so met up with lovely group of mums in same situation. I am on prozac too.

Thanks for the tips. I do try to get out every day for a walk, or in the car, but I managed to write off my car (with ds in) a few weeks ago!!

I can feel this awful blackness lifting slowly and am loving the nicer weather at last!!

I live in Brighton if anyone in the area.

SD, fantastic for you! I remember lying on that Edinburgh scale form they give you to fill in. HV still told my I was a borderline case, which made me well up. I just wish I'd been more honest about it, and got the help I needed.

So happy to hear things are getting better for you.

Oh, and my hv is crap. She's been to the house exactly 3 times, and that was just to lecture me on when my ds would be having his jabs and when I should wean him (this was when he was a few days old!!). Can't talk to her at all. . Doc's nice though......thank bloody goodness!

Oh, and my hv is crap. She's been to the house exactly 3 times, and that was just to lecture me on when my ds would be having his jabs and when I should wean him (this was when he was a few days old!!). Can't talk to her at all. . Doc's nice though......thank bloody goodness!

Apologies sd, nappy brained and knackered and posted on your thread instead of my own!!!!! So glad your feeling better, it's so good when you get to the point where you can laugh again, isn't it. Anyway, apologies again.

Hey Cubby it makes all the difference when ur gp is sympathetic. My GP's wife had PND so he's been fantastic. I still only slept for 3 hours last night tho...tossing and turning!!!!