What should I say to doctor????

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Hi. I need a bit of advice. I am going to the doctor this afternoon as I haven't slept in a few weeks and I'm completely exhausted. I am stressed and feeling lousy about myself. Also, I am having flashbacks from abuse I suffered as a child. Everything is flooding back to me, so I think it is time to visit the doctor...but what do I say? Do I just blurt everything out? I know I need to get help for this, but I cannot even dicuss this with my husband.

Any help would be great. Also, do you think he will just put me on ad's or will I be reffered fo councelling?

would write down everything in point form so you will cover everything. Plus if it gets too much you can let the doc read your list. best wishes xxx

I didn't think of that. Thanks, that's really helpful.

Hi, I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling so down at the moment. I know that feeling of exhaustion and hopelessness very well and believe me, the best thing you can do is go and tell somebody about it. If you're like me, you will probably dissolve into floods of tears in front of the doctor, but don't worry about that - they've seen it all before. Writing things down is a great idea - wish I'd thought of that.

I have spent many years on and off ad's and while they definitely helped me, it is counselling which has really been my saviour. I have spent the last 3 months seeing a counsellor and although it's cost me a lot of money (decided I couldn't wait for the NHS), it's been money well spent and I feel SO much better about myself and my life.

It sounds like you have issues in your past which are affecting you now and given that you can't talk to your husband, then talking to someone neutral who is not emotionally involved and who is also professionally trained could help you enormously.

You have to really want to sort things out because counselling is painful at times - it makes you face up to things you just want to bury and forget all about.

I hope your doctor is sympathetic and listens to you properly. Just tell him/her exactly how you feel - warts and all.

Do you have feelings either way about ad's? I believe they are useful in giving you a kick start on the road to getting better. I am still taking them, but have decreased my dose down to a quarter of what it was 3 months ago and am hoping to stop them altogether over the next month or so.

All the best for your appointment this afternoon and please come back and let us know it went.

Hugs ... CM xx

Agree a list is a very good idea. My GP was fab when I went, and for me, ADs did really help. I wasn't sleeping, and the ADs I had helped me to sleep, which in turn made all the other symptoms a tiny bit more bearable. Think just going to the drs and admitting there is a problem was a real turning point for me.

Have you got childcare for your appointment? Once you've talked to the gp do you think you will be able to talk a bit to your DH? I know that the fantastic support of mine, once he understood what was going on, was really important to me.

Please let us know how you get on so that we can support you.

hope you're ok - best wishes xxx

hope you're ok - best wishes xxx

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Hi. Thanks for the advice. I took a list with me, and it was really helpful. It helped me hold things together.

The doctor was really understanding and took time to listen to me. He has put me on ad's for about 6 months and is referring me for councelling. He didn't mention how long I will have to wait for councelling, but he said there is a councellor in the surgery who I may see first.

I'm really glad I pushed myself to go now.

So glad to hear it went well.
I was also abused as a child and am currently in counselling which is such a great help.
If ever you want to chat/rant/vent etc. please feel free to CAT me.
Hope you start to feel better soon,

Really glad to hear it went well. Hope the ADs start to make a difference soon. Please let us know how you are doing.

Happy to hear it went well - well done. Hope you get your counselling appointment soon. Best wishes xxx

Hi. I'm also pleased to hear it went well with your gp. Which ads has he given you? Let's hope they start to kick in after a couple of weeks and give you that boost you need.

CM xx

The doctor has put me on citalopram. I'm on 20mg at the moment.

My dh is trying to be supportive right now, which is good. He still has no idea what is wrong, and I can't bring myself to tell him about my past. Maybe the counselling will help me to accept what happened and open up to my dh more.

Captaincavemansmummy > thanks for the offer to chat. I really appreciate it. I will definately take you up on the offer.

The doctor has put me on citalopram. I'm on 20mg at the moment.

My dh is trying to be supportive right now, which is good. He still has no idea what is wrong, and I can't bring myself to tell him about my past. Maybe the counselling will help me to accept what happened and open up to my dh more.

Captaincavemansmummy > thanks for the offer to chat. I really appreciate it. I will definately take you up on the offer.

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