Is it normal to not want your child after it is born?

[Bexm82]

Is it normal to not want your child after it is born? My daughter is 14 months old and I love her to bits but I dont want her at all and often think of running away. I had the most excellet pregancy and birth with her but was scared of her at the beginning and couldnt touch her through fear of hurting her somehow. I was given tabs for post natal depression which helped me get past the fear of her. I was taken of them after 8 months and things have slowly got worse again. I loved being pregnant but hate being a mother. I love my daughter to bits and hate myself for feeling this way but I dont want her, I cant cope with her. I also hate having to pay some one else to look after her while I work and feel that she loves the childminder more than she loves me. I beleive both she and my husband would be better of with out me and want to leave so badly that when ever im alone I plan how and where I will be going when I do leave. I just dont no if I can take much more, she is such a beautiful girl and she deserves so much better than me.

i'd go back to the doctors if I were you.

Let me make this clear - there is no way that your dd and dh would be better off without you. No way. But, they'd be better off with a better you.(by that i mean someone who is happier and not suffering)

Please try to get some help.

There are lots of women here who can give you advice based on their experiences. Take care.

Please go and see your gp asap. She sounds adorable and you sound like you could do with some support. Good luck.

I felt like this and later found I was suffering from depression. I remember going shopping and not wanting come home again.

I could have run away as well.

Feeling overwhelmed and exhausted are part of being a new mum but I think a chat with your gp and health visitor would be good. You sound like you could do with some adult support so you don't feel so alone and isolated!

You need to get back on the medication. Ring your gp, get the first appointment they have.

I didn't want my baby either, but I love his company now that he's a chatty toddler. Wouldn't want him all day though, working full time is what keeps me sane. Oh and the tablets.

Hugs from me, be kind to yourself xx