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practical non-judegmental advice please

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naswm · 20/04/2006 16:30

I need some help to get me through the day. I am struggling like mad at the moment. I have not done the washing up all day. The kids are emptying the toy cupboard evverywhere. I have not cooked for them. The house is filfy. There are piles of washing all over the hoouse. Dont know what to do first. Need a cuddle. I have inadvertently pushed all my RL friends away. I am usually practical and rational but am the moment I am all over the place.

TIA

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Donbean · 20/04/2006 16:32

Hello hun, are you me!!!!!!!!!!
I can relate to you with all that.
Have you been to the Docs yet? Are you planning on going to the Docs at all?

MrsBadger · 20/04/2006 16:34

ignore all mess
make cup of tea
sit down somewhere mess isn't visible (I go behind the bed)
drink tea

emerge from behind bed feeling refreshed

compo · 20/04/2006 16:35

go out with the kids, get some fresh air. When you coe back it won't seem so bad

bramblina · 20/04/2006 16:35

Can your mum give you a cuddle? They are the best. Or dh/dp, will he be home soon. Or have a good cry? Do you know what's wrong?

naswm · 20/04/2006 16:40

thanks everyone. None of the options seem possible for various reasons. But thanks for trying. Think I am a hopeless case

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Sparkerleur · 20/04/2006 16:44

Definitely get out of the house - even if it's just for half an hour. Fresh air works wonders. Alternatively, if I'm having a bad day like this and I am really not in the mood for making a cooked meal I just make a cold one for the kids. They don't mind and think it's fun. Sandwiches, fruit, yoghurts etc.
All get your PJs on, drag a duvet down onto the sofa and all cuddle up together and watch a dvd.
Chin up! Smile

MrsBadger · 20/04/2006 16:45

you're not a hopeless case! we just haven't made the right suggestion yet
[thinks harder]
Would loud shouty music work?
Or setting the kitchen timer and doing a lightening 15min attack on (eg) putting washing away?
Getting even one of the jobs done might stop the others looking so overwhelming, and if it doesn't, well, at least the washing's away...

(NB suggestion of Dr's appointment is a good idea - if you make one you can always ring and cancel it later)

bramblina · 20/04/2006 16:45

I always put off what i don't want to do but when i finally tackle even just half of it, it does feel better. Go do the washing up and wipe down the counters now and tell me how better the kitchen looks. Go on, I'm waiting!

naswm · 20/04/2006 16:50

thanks everyone

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lact8 · 20/04/2006 17:06

Hi naswm, sorry to hear you're feeling so low.

On days when I cant get going I try and do the following and they might help you, excuse me if I sound bossy, trying to do this before dd's next feed!

Go and wash your face with cold water. Put on a bit of slap, especially blusher, give yourself a healthy glow. Quick squirt of perfume and a clean t-shirt and you'll feel better about yourself (take kids with you if necc, how old are yours btw?)

If you can't face going out, go round and open the windows and let soem fresh air in

Get binbags and get the kids to help you if possible to round up all the washing. You don't need to do any of it but at least its all together, out of sight and ready when you feel up to tackling it.

Then have a cup of tea, coffee, lots of sugar

Go easy on yourself adn do beans on toast or something similar for tea

Think of something you know the kids like doing, even if just reading a story. Sit with them for a while and it always helps me to realise how much i do actually like them even if they've been doing my head in all day.

Don't knwo if thats of any use to you. I think you posted yesterday too about having a bad day? Do you have someone to turn to in RL? HAve you thought about going to the drs?

Gotta go, boobs tingling here!
Take care

lioncub · 20/04/2006 17:21

Hi there, know just how you feel. Bugger the mess. I went to the dr but he was useless said I was suffering from stress and gave me a booklet to read. So I went to the herbalist and she listened to me more. She advised vitamin B and st Johns wart. think they have sort of worked I think you feel better cos you've done somthing about it. Oh but still have days when I don't want to go on. I'm lucky tho cos i'v got a great husband who gives lots of cuddles. thought i'd write so that you don't think your the only person in the whole world who feels they can't cope. Smile Smile

naswm · 20/04/2006 20:22

sorry for not responding properly earlier. Was hard to concentrate wiht the kids around. I have achieved a few smeall things this evening so dont feel like a totally loser. I shall try to remember all of tyour goiod advice and tips for tomrrows. Thanks again. Its not that bad really. I just need to pull myself toghere

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lioncub · 21/04/2006 16:01

Gosh that's what all us women say - oh it's not so bad - got to pull my self together - but what if you just can't - don't feel so bad. Let people know your finding things difficult. Must say though that chatting on these sites do help sounds sad but it doeas you good to write things down it helps to put things into perspective. Have you got young children is that why you feel crap?
I'v only just got started on this site - must say it's hard to get your head round it's such a big site.

SleepyJess · 21/04/2006 16:11

Alanis Morissette (sp?!) is very good for whipping people into a frenzy of activity and you get the added bonus of being able to shout her angry lyrics out loud and vent off any negative feelings!!!

Hope this evening/the weekend are better naswym. Tomorrow is a new day, and even when I'm having a down phase (cripes I just admitted I have those.. but will not call them depression, ho no! Wink), 'tomorrow' is often a better day even when I am convinced it won't be..

(((((((((hugs)))))))))) (cyber but better than nowt)

SJ x

naswm · 21/04/2006 20:05

thanks Sleepy Jess. things no better today. actually worse. I have shut the door on the kitchen and DH will be so fed up when he gets in. But hopefully I'll be asleep by then

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