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Feel like I'm going backwards

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AlwaysReadyForABlether · 13/01/2013 11:10

I've been on ADs since April mainly due to relationship issues with my STBXH.
He moved out in September and I really thought I'd turned a corner. Everyone commented on how much better I seemed.
But now I feel like I'm taking a step backwards. I'm sleeping loads again, have no enthusiasm or energy for anything, very rarely leave the house other than to go to work or get food.

I don't really want to talk to anyone in RL about this as I feel I spent most of last year offloading on my friends and family.
I suppose I thought everything would just be amazingly better once he'd gone but actually that's not the case.

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AlwaysReadyForABlether · 13/01/2013 16:43

Anyone got any suggestions on how I get things back to normal?

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amillionyears · 13/01/2013 21:06

hmm.

I suppose the reason could be many things.
I suppose the obvious question is are you sure the need for ADs was because of your stbxh?

Other things to think about
The time of year is not great. I always sleep lots more this time of year, than say spring.
Do you think you are now grieving?
Might there be other health issues going on.
Might you need a holiday, perhaps in sunshine if your budget could strethch to it?
And how were you over Christmas.

thingamajig · 13/01/2013 21:28

Sorry to hear you are feeling so bad. It sounds like classic depression. Go back to your GP and check the dose of you ADs, people are often started on a low dose, so you may need more.

You have obviously been through a very tough time, and you need to concentrate on you for a bit. Try to get decent sleep, food and exercise - this is hard because its the last thing you want to do.

Keep talking to us, what should be better before he left? On that note, try some online CBT -this is designed to get you to challenge depressed ways of thinking.

AlwaysReadyForABlether · 13/01/2013 22:10

I don't think it was totally down to stbxh, there are some ongoing family issues, but he was without doubt a huge factor.
I suppose because I was so unhappy in the relationship I just expected to bounce back when it was over. I felt like I did all my grieving before we actually split but maybe that wasn't the case. I certainly don't want him back so it's maybe more a case of grieving for what could have been.

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