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I can understand how some people lose it with their kids

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Rhubarb · 09/04/2006 20:41

Cause I really feel that I'm about to. I've had 4 weeks where everyone but me has been ill. I've taken days off work and I've spent all day indoors caring for dd, then dh got ill and I looked after the children on my own for a week, then ds got very ill, again I spent days cooped up indoors caring for him, coping with his outbursts and screaming. He is just getting over it and I was looking forward to a day on my own tomorrow, dd at school, ds at creché and as my school have broken up, I'd have the day to myself. But now dh is ill again and may well be here all day tomorrow. I'm so fed up of caring for them all that my sympathy has run dry. Today we've been in all day, the kids have been bored, the weather bad. We put them to bed at 8pm, dd has school tomorrow, but it is now 9.36pm and ds has been screaming all that time.

I've checked his nappy, I've given him Calpol, he's got a drink, he was fine until about 10mins after we put him to bed. His sister cannot sleep because of his screaming, I have a headache and dh is just going round groaning. I've been on the edge ever since we made the decision to go back to the UK and now I feel I'm losing it.

I was looking forward to a day off tomorrow, but dh will probably be here so it won't be the same. I know if I go upstairs again I'll lose it with ds, I really will. It's not fair on dd, normally I'd give her the day off school as he's lasted until 10.30pm before now and she's been too tired to go to school, but I can't do that, she'll have to go, I just can't cope with them all anymore! I seriously do understand how people lose it with their kids and hurt them, there comes that breaking point, that push too far. I really can't stand this, he's not showing any signs of calming down. He does this every now and then, there is no reason for it, he just tests the boundaries, he has a vile temper. I just want to bloody scream!

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Rhubarb · 10/04/2006 19:08

Thanks Pruni.
Update is that knobdick of a dh has been a bloody nuisance all day! I get up this morning feeling ill myself having had a sleepless night too. I take the kids to school, I go shopping and get lots of snacks in so neither of us have to cook much for ourselves, like mini rice-puddings, soup, stuff like that.
I give him pills and take him up a cup of tea.

He comes down for a while, pacing the floor, groans a lot.
I do manage to get 2 hours sleep in the afternoon.
I pick the kids up, entertain them, cook them their tea, make dh a chip sandwich, give him his pills.
He lolls about groaning, lying on the sofa.
Ds takes a fruit compote off the table and walks around eating it, I'm doing all the washing up (3rd time today) so I ask dh to help him. When I look up, dh is still lying on the sofa, watching as ds spills it down his pjs.

I yell at dh, tell him to get his fat hairy smelly useless piece of shit arse upstairs. Tonight I sleep down here because he smells, the sheets on the bed have not been changed because he'll only smell out the new ones.

Tomorrow will no doubt be the same, only I'll have ds all day and I'M NOT VERY WELL MYSELF!!!!

So bear with me whilst I scream please.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
Thank you!

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Dior · 10/04/2006 19:10

So, not a good day then? Wink Hope tomorrow is better. They will all be well by Easter weekend...then you can get them to bugger off for a few hours while you eat an Easter egg.

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Rhubarb · 10/04/2006 19:12

Oh, and dd drank out of ds's cup by mistake, the one he'd spat in. As he started with this bug, what are the bets now that she'll get it????

Hoping Easter is better, thanks Dior. How are you feeling?

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unicorn · 10/04/2006 19:12

Rhubarb, I am sending all my sympathy to you as dealing with anyone sick is an absolute PITA - Sorry I can't offer any more practical help.

I think you are very stressed too, and it's compounded by the fact that there is no one to look after your needs (sorry if I am far off the mark here)
I reckon if/when you get back here you will now have loads of mates who will help out when the going gets tough.
MN'tters love ya - so you just need to ask!

bubble99 · 10/04/2006 19:14

Ill or not he needs a rocket up his fat smelly behind. IMHO.

Have another scream if you want to. Grin

Dior · 10/04/2006 19:15

Bit crap...dh and I bickering all the time. But no up-chucking to deal with, so I'm not complaining!

mesenfantsmaman · 10/04/2006 19:16

Rhubby I think despite it all you are pretty fab< I would certainly of had a breakdown by now, in fact reading your plight made me feel like having one on your behalf. Being nursemaid is draining and frustrating particularly when noone is looking out for you. I think if i was you I would be a bit selfish now, yea look after the kids but put yourself before dh, and If needs be make him sleep on the sofa, you need your rest too xx Hope you feel better soon x

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Rhubarb · 10/04/2006 19:17

unicorn - thanks for that! You are lovely!
bubble99 - he needs a fecking cork up his big fat smelly behind!
Dior - we've been at that stage too, just the constant bickering and sniping. Can you not take time out from each other? Go out on your own for a night? Spend a weekend with a mate?

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Rhubarb · 10/04/2006 19:18

I did ask him to sleep down here and you know what? He refused! Said he needed to be near the toilet. Luckily we do have a sofa bed, but I'd rather be in my own bed iykwim.

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Rhubarb · 10/04/2006 19:19

And setting the damn thing up will be a strain as I'm having stomach cramps and feel as though I've been kicked repeatedly in the guts.

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Rhubarb · 10/04/2006 19:19

Why can't I put all this into one post????

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batters · 10/04/2006 19:25

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Dior · 10/04/2006 19:26

'Take time out from each other'...for 10 years maybe Grin

Oh dear, you sound like you're getting the sickness bug...look after yourself.

bubble99 · 10/04/2006 19:28

Just say the word and I'll hand carve the cork. Wink

Are you all set to come back to the UK? Well, not right now obviously with the puking Rhubarb family, but generally. Have you got an idea of when you'll be leaving?

BullyingLondonLegalBods · 10/04/2006 19:30

Oh Rhubs, I really feel for you.

Is there any treat I can send you to make you feel even a little bit better.

Creme Egg

Trashy Magazine ??

\link{http://sugarhigh.abstractdynamics.org/archives/flier%20cork.gif\or this for your DH ?}

LGJ

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Rhubarb · 10/04/2006 19:33

Grin Sherlock!
I just need a helping hand for a day or two!

Our final day here is the 14th of July, but me and the kids will be flying back just before then, dh will drive back with the caravan. Hoping we can stay at his folks for just a week or two (all I can bear) and then go straight into rented. Of course, I'll be the one doing all the organising. I always am!

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madmarchhare · 10/04/2006 19:39

I see why you wanted some tips on what names to call DH. I hope you feel better soon.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 10/04/2006 21:42

How are things this evening Rhube?

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