What to say when my friend rings up in tears

[NASWM]

I didn't know where to post this, but thought there may be some sympathetic folks lurking here who might be able to offer some advice.

I have a friend whose husband is seriously ill. We are fairly close and have spoken at length about it as well as about other things. Recently she has been crying a lot, which is understandable. I don't mind that, of course, but sometimes I just dont know what to say to her. I listen and let her talk, but sometimes she doesn't talk and just cries down the phone. What should I say when she is crying? I feel so helpless as whatever I say seems pathetic. I am pleased that she rings up and feels she can trust me to be there for her, but I dont feel like I am helping much.

Anyone? Thanks

I dont think she expects you to say anything as she knows there is little you can do.

She just needs to let her feelings out.

I would just let her cry and say how sorry you are there is nothing you can do.

Thanks

as long as you are there for her that is what she needs - a sympathetic ear. That is the best you can do for her really.

naswm, she must feel very secure in your relationship that she can be so vulnerable with you. sounds to me like you are already doing what she needs you to, that's why she keeps ringing you. i know it's really hard, and you don't know what to say... sometimes there is nothing that needs to be said.

I've never thought of it llike that amber5. She has been a good friend to me too, although I dont cry (one day when I relearn how to, hopefully) but she has listened to me go on and on and on before

just tell her you'll always be a friend who's there for her no matter what.tell her you wish you could make it better. she'll appreciate that.