Is this PND or am i just tierd? Please help i feel so alone.

[Marne]

Gave birth to dd2 a week and a half ago, she's perfect and i love her to bits but i cant stop crying. Dh and i decided a while ago that she would be are last but now she his here i am finding it hard to accept not having anymore, it makes me upset to think this is the last time i do this and that i'm never going to give birth again ( i realy enjoyed giving birth, it was amazing ). Evry time i look at my little girl i get upset. I'm also feeling very lonely as i have lost contact with most of my friends since having dd1, when i had dd1 i had alot of people around me, this time people seem to have stayed out of the way, i have no one to talk to apart from my mum but i dont want her to know how i am feeling. I feel i am failing dd1 as i cant spend as much time with her as i would like too.

After having dd2 i had alot of stitches which became infected so i have been feeling a bit groggy, i just want too feel well again but i feel i have nothing to look forword too (even though i have a beutiful little girl), The thought of having no more is eating me up inside, i have talked to dh and he said maybe one day he will change his mind, but dh is not getting any younger and i know he does'nt want kids after he's 40 (he's 37 and i'm 24).

Am i being stupid? Ive tried not to think about it and to enjoy what i have but i cant get it out of my mind, can anybody help?

congratulations on your daughter! sorry to hear you feel crap though. I think you need to cut yourself some slack though, you only gave birth a week and a half ago. Hormones are going crazy and you've prob. got a bad case of the baby blues. Have you told your partner? Not sure about PND as mine has always developed when my boys have got to 5-6 mths

It's also far too early to say you'll never have anymore. Just enjoy your gorgeous girls and think about more kids in a few years. Your only 24, some people don't even start a family well into their 40's.

Why did you loose contact with your friends if you don't mind me asking?

Can your husband take over with the kids today so you can have a couple of hours in bed? be kind to yourself, it's a massive change to have two. The baby has to fit in though with the first child.

Keep your chin up !

Congratulations on your new DD. Sorry to hear you are feeling so low atm. I had ante natal depression when expecting DS2, which then turned into PND after the birth.
I had reasons behind the depression, but felt very out of control & out of it.
I spoke to my HV during one of her visits & she was a great support. She came regually to visit me & suggested I went onto AD's to help lift my mood a little. I also had some counselling sessions which helped a lot.
Is your HV still coming to your house to visit?
It may be a good idea to talk through some of your fealings with her.
She will also be able to inform you of local baby groups where you could meet with other Mums.
Hope you are feeling a little better soon.xx

Most of my freinds dont have kids and my best friend has been trying to get pg for 2 years and i feel im rubbing her nose in it though we do still talk to each other. It feels like i have grown up but my friends hav'nt so i find it hard to find things to talk about with them.

HV is comming on teusday, i find it hard to talk infront of dh as he has depression (he will be there on tue)

You don't have to use the word depression when you talk to her (I didn't), just mention that you have been a bit weepy & work from there.
My HV had already picked up on the fact that I wasn't quite right before I actually mentioned anything.
She will probably ask you a few questions & then keep a bit of an eye on you.
It really helps to have someone to talk to.