Anxiety and panic attacks

[Charleebird]

Does anyone else suffer with this "odd" feeling. Constant fear that somethings going to happen? I have constant butterflies, cry all the time, i cant concentrate i feel really odd and its been happening since last tuesday. I was on propranalol and fluoxetine but my doc told me to come off the fluoxetine as i could be having side effects (i have been on them for about 3 years)

I am constantly thinking maybe i have some illness even thou i have seen many doctors who have all told me its anxiety. Why have i suddenly gone like this? I feel so alone. I feel nervous and dizzy. Not hungry anymore and just cant relax. I have been pescribed another anti depressant and tonight i will start taking them.

Cuppu, I do have support of a great family and friends, but i don't want to become i burden so mostly I just get on with it. I am going to speak to my GP on Wednesday and see if she can recommend a good private counsellor. X x

Feeling anxious Yommy but trying to brush it away. What's the worst that can happen? I feel positive :-)

Morning little puds...get it sweeped right under the carpet! Are you doing anything nice today? I am stuck at work today. It will sound sad but I love the distraction and feeling like I'm living life as normal! If I'm off I have too much time for my mind to go into overdrive x x

I'm feeling better today but its still on my mind whether to spk tommy ex boss but as my best friend says I probably wouldn't trust whatever he says an would embarrass myself and him and my fiancé I'm the process. Plus of we did do anything which I really don't think I did will it really change anything?

Morning Lisa,

I would just leave it with ur boss...unless you can really trust him to 1. Tell the truth and 2. Not speak to it about anyone else! What does ur DP think? Does he have doubt about the baby being his? X x

No doubt at all. He doesn't think I should ask my ex boss. I think I terrified of him saying we did do something and part of me wants to face up to it. I know I didn't I am probably just focussing on it to get some control or something! I think he would tell me the truth but I don't know whether I would believe him. And he probably would tell others I can't be sure about that. And I might as well be saying that I sleep with men without remembering which I don't usually! I can't stop thinking about it and its wearing me out! Personally I can't see what opportunity there was and I don't even remember kissing him or anything.

If your DP has no doubt I would just try to draw a line in the sand and move on from this!! Make a Loire cupboard in ur mind, put these thought in and close the door!

When are you due bambino? Have you bought anything in yet? Do you know what ur having??

Just try to focus ur mind and everytime the intrusive thoughts come in distract yourself straight away, sing, get a drink, grab a book n start reading!! Anything at all! It's hard I know, but it will get easier. I've been in pretty bad places these past few weeks, but I think I'm finally coming through the worst of it...time will tell!

X x

U r completely right. I just feel like if he told me I would be free of the worries. I think I feel disgusted at the thought of having sex with anyone else while pregnant and scared I've harmed my baby. I have worried about something like this before but eventually it's gone away without me really knowing just trusting I didn't do anything. I spent seven weeks working there afterwards and shared an office with him after and there was no mention. Next day I apologised for being drunk and arguing and said I didn't remember much and he laughed and told me not to worry about it and didn't want any money for the cab. In fact he seemed a bit guilty himself but I took it that he felt bad for being angry with me. He's been drunk with me since and never said anything either. He's never flirted with me or anything. Baby is due on 14th march and we don't know what we're having yet. Bought a couple of bits and some friends gave us some stuff.

If he has never flirted with you again or mentioned it even when he was drunk then chances are nothing happened! If a man think he has a chance he probably become a bit like a dog with a bone I think you are beating itself up over nothing. I know it doesn't feel like nothing right now, but with anxiety that's the nature of the beast you will get through this!

Just concentrate on that new little person and meeting him/her as march will b here before you know it :) x x

I'm going to try and see it as not asking him is me taking control of the situation. After all why would I give him the power to make me believe something that isn't true! I know in my heart nothing happened. I just want to know every little detail- what I said etc but I have to stop obsessing! And he never flirted with me ever, in fact if anything that night he was angry with me and the last few weeks I worked there he was the only one who knew I was pregnant and was really good about it. U have been so helpful. Hopefully I can help others someday.

I'm going to try and see it as not asking him is me taking control of the situation. After all why would I give him the power to make me believe something that isn't true! I know in my heart nothing happened. I just want to know every little detail- what I said etc but I have to stop obsessing! And he never flirted with me ever, in fact if anything that night he was angry with me and the last few weeks I worked there he was the only one who knew I was pregnant and was really good about it. U have been so helpful. Hopefully I can help others someday.

Charlesbird in a way u sound like me. U r convinced ur ill and I'm convinced I've cheated. Although I'm not but I worry I have. I hope u can learn to relax eventually and realise u r ok. I used to feel if I didn't do something in a certain order something terrible would happen. The mind is a strange thing.

Well ive been on setraline now for 2 weeks and i still feel anxious for no frickin reason, its making me wana scream!! Just wish it would piss off! :-(

Lisa I've read some of your posts. Have you seen anyone about this? I don't at all want to diagnose you over the Internet but it sounds like you have OCD with intrusive and obsessive thoughts (that you had sex with someone else). It might be part of ante-natal anxiety. It is upsetting you a lot... Do you think you could get referred to someone for help?

Charlee - will be interested to see how you get on with the meds. I feel the same as you but have never tried them.

Charlee give it a couple more weeks.....however I was taking sertraline for the depression and a different med for the anxiety.Depression and anxiety go hand in hand but the sertraline lifted my mood and helped me think a bit more rationally but didn't take away the stomach knots and restlessness that I get with the anxiety.You may need to have something else to combat that.But I would see how you go with the sertraline for a bit longer.Mine took about 4 weeks to kick in.my Gp switched me to mirtazapine which is an anti depressant but more geared to anxiety.This wasn't enough me so I take risperdal aswell.(That's an anti psychotic but I'm not mad honest!)
Anyway I seem to have found the right combination after a few trials! The only problem is they make you quite sleepy so I take them after 6pm when DH is back from work.I'm usually falling asleep on the sofa by 9pm but i can live with that!

Tak1ng chances. I have been referred and am waiting. The thing is in the meantime I have started obsessing over whether to ask my ex boss and its driving me mad! I don't want to do something ill regret!

I would say don't ask him

Any reason? Do u think he will tell me something I don't want to hear?

I agree actually because I need to trust myself not rely on reassurance from him.

Anxiety is kicking my ass tonight hubby has just gone back to work n I knew I'd feel like this!! Fuck off anxiety!! Hopefully I'll feel better after some sleep!

What are u worrying about chicken?

I was really unwell a few weeks ago Lisa and I'm terrified I will become that unwell again. I know it won't happy, but can't help but get myself into a complete panic about it. The anxiety is horrible...exhausting

I know it's hard but the anxiety will make u feel worse. I feel loads less anxious right now and I'm sure it's because I've been sleeping better. Have u seen a doctor about the illness. Anxiety is so weird. I feel like I have a real problem and you probably think I'm worrying about nothing but I feel like u are (not putting your anxiety down just putting it in perspective)

Yeah Lisa...I was rushed into hospital a few weeks ago with HG of 5.9...before I know I was physically I'll I convinced myself I was have a breakdown, but the lack of oxygen getting to my brain at that point was causing the almost manic feeling I was having I got a transfusion of 4 pints of blood. Anyway, when I'm home alone my brain just goes into over drive and the anxiety can b almost crippling at times! Really horrible. I've come through this once and I am determined I will again...but it's damn hard to fight every minute of every day!!

Tomorrow is a new day and a day closer to hubby being home again

I'm also due on and my anxiety always gets worse around this time! X x