How do you know if you are unhappy or depressed?

[AllAlone]

I´m tired of life, love my DD of 18 months, but hate being at home full time and hate the place I am living at the moment, small town abroad; don´t speak the language.. Pre DD I had a good job, earned more than DH and was always out and about. Now after a year in our new country I am still miserable and have still failed to make any friends and barely even an acquaintance and from being just unhappy seem to be getting steadily worse. My relationship with DH is on the rocks, although he hasn´t noticed yet, and I am so tired of being a mother. There is no respite. Our family can´t or aren´t able to help. What can I do? Please help!

can you go back to some sort of work?

Been looking for work for ages, with no joy, not so much as a rejection letter! For jobs here, you really need to speak 3 languages and I don´t speak the right ones although I am learning and making v good progress.

Before DD I was quite a cheerful sort and always out and about doing different things and meeting friends. Here there is nothing to do, especially in winter with a baby. there are no mother-baby groups etc. either so I am really on my own.

have you spoken to your HV about this?

what types of jobs are you looking for?

I don´t have a HV or similar or even a doctor as I live abroad. I´ve thought of going for counselling but am only really intersted in it with a native English speaker, and of course there aren´t any here.

Pre DD I worked as a multi-lingual secretary.

is your old job still open or did you quit your job to look after your DD? dont they have any agencies sort of thing to look for jobs

My thoughts are with you. It's not easy being abroad, I am away at the mo after 2 yrs and return to country of origin next month.
This may seem really obvious and you've probably done it.. but is there any expat support for you for the country where you are?
Many of my friends here in Asia were found through an expat page. I also took up a language course and I'm no good at languages, and took up a dance class.
Don't give up.. keep searching all avenues to meet people.
Does your little one go part time to a nursery/playgroup? Mine started when he was 2 part time and it helped ME lots!!! Maybe worth considering when he turns 2, at least for social interaction skills?
How long have you been where you are?
It's really important that NOW you talk to your husband. I really know how r/ships can be affected.. find a way to have YOU time and time with your husband.. talk and talk, because you may find he has lots on his mind too.
I really wish you well.

My thoughts are with you. It's not easy being abroad, I am away at the mo after 2 yrs and return to country of origin next month.
This may seem really obvious and you've probably done it.. but is there any expat support for you for the country where you are?
Many of my friends here in Asia were found through an expat page. I also took up a language course and I'm no good at languages, and took up a dance class.
Don't give up.. keep searching all avenues to meet people.
Does your little one go part time to a nursery/playgroup? Mine started when he was 2 part time and it helped ME lots!!! Maybe worth considering when he turns 2, at least for social interaction skills?
How long have you been where you are?
It's really important that NOW you talk to your husband. I really know how r/ships can be affected.. find a way to have YOU time and time with your husband.. talk and talk, because you may find he has lots on his mind too.
I really wish you well.

you do sound depressed..one indication of depression is being unable to see a way forward, each idea that is suggested is easy to reject.

Do you speak the local language?

Is the culture of the country alien to you?