I'm not enjoying being a mother at all

[Cupcakemummy85]

Today is one of those days where I just can't take it anymore! My dd is 15 months and I just can't get to grips with being a mum! When she was 11 months I fell pregnabt and was so happy about it as my dd was a really easy baby. Now is a different story and she is so much harder than she was. I've put posts up on here about getting nannies to help, nurserys etc. I'm not coping at all and I really don't know what to do. My sister had a baby today and I felt happy for her and a bit sad because I remember when my dd was born all I seemed to feel was scared. I'm worried now how I will cope with two. I know all this stress is bad for the baby but I can't seem to calm down. I really feel as though I'm close to having a meltdown! Just needed to share with someone as my dh seems to busy to deal with it all right now.

Hello. How have you been?
I have a 2yr old DD.

I've suffered from depression for years so knew I was a prime candidate for PND to send me flying. I think in some ways that gave me an advantage, as the people around me knew what to look out for and how to help. I think you're in a strong position too, as you know two will be hard, so you can put some coping stratergies in place now before number two comes along.

With DD, I didn't leave the house much for the first 2-3 months, didn't have any 'mummy friends' and was struggling. Then someone I knew with an older child suggested the local Children'd Centre. They were my life-saver. They've seen it all before, are there to help and don't judge at all. They've seen me cry loads - lol They gave me details of local groups as well as the days they run.

My DD is a 'sprited child' and can be a nightmare if she's not constantly entertained. When I'm feeling really down, I find it easier to do stuff on my own with her like go to a children's farm or to the park.

Whereabouts are you? Maybe there are some mumsnetters nearby.

Bet you're doing so much better than you give yourself credit for.

Awwww thank you. I'm doing a bit better this week. I'm trying to see the whinging and crying as a way of my daughter asking me for help or a cuddle than trying to annoy me. Which I know she wasn't trying to do. We have been goin through a lot, teething, wakin at night, food refusal. But I'm really makin an extra effort to stay calm and b the best mummy I can be. I've been using the time she naps to organise the house and cleaning instead of napping myself and its put me in a much better mood now. Fingers crossed I can stay like this :s really trying

Glad to here it Cupcake! Whatever you do, battle on, dont let your little one dictate to you and control you. DS2 was extremely demanding and everything was a fight but I was determined that he would do what I wanted to do and food refusal was one of them, We both were hard and cruel to be kind as no way could be have a spoilt nightmare child. Again, dont under estimate books like Gina Ford because she helped us a lot. To many of us childcare doesnt come naturally and glad to read so many other mums who feel the same.