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Shouldn't I be happy?

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whiskmeaway · 21/03/2006 18:47

Finances finally sorted out in divorce procedure.

I now have a lump sum of money and a nominal sum for maintenance that truly is an insult! - which replaces the fact that I have had to divorce my husband (he left me but forced me to divorce him), lose my home, rehome my animals, lose lots of my friends for various reasons, move away from an area that I love etc etc.

It is a sum of money that I know I should be grateful about - a lot of people would only dream about having that much - even me! (believe me it isnt much) but in relation to the things I have lost I would rather give it away as it means so little to me - I can't do that as I have to use it now to survive in rented accommodation and bring up my children, but I am so BL""DY DEPRESSED about it! He came away far better off than me in my opinion even though I gained most of the capital! Maybe that doesn't help?!

I know no-one can do anything for me really - I suppose I just want to offload some of the depression! :(

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SoupDragon · 21/03/2006 20:43

Bump! No helpful comments but didn't want you to feel ignored on top of everything else.

mistressmiggins · 21/03/2006 20:55

hi there
saw you on the other thread & just wanted to say hello

yes it is crap & yes you have every right to feel down about it all

no you shouldnt be happy - money isnt everything when you ahve lost your entire future...or rather one future

why did you have to divorce your husband?
I am defintitely the one persuing divorce as if I dont close that door, I will always be wondering (even hoping) it will all turn out to bve a nightmare & he'll come home

Nightynight · 21/03/2006 21:11

whiskmeaway, sorry to hear about that. I think it is natural to feel some reaction, and fear for the future, after such a life-changing event. Hope you start feeling the positive aspects of life as a single parent soon - cos there are lots! there was a thread about them recently in the lone parents section on here.

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