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Question - when someone is a suicide risk

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becstargazeypie · 25/09/2012 13:11

A family member (17yo) has just been discharged from hospital into our care - just overnight until his mum can pick him up tomorrow morning. The psychiatrist said that she thought he'd definitely be better off with us than on a mental ward, but warned us that he's been having suicidal thoughts and can't be left alone. She said that he's thought about taking an overdose repeatedly. My question is - should I throw out all medication or put all medication in our bedroom so that he can't take anything left in the kitchen/bathroom while we're asleep? Should I sleep on the sofa next to his bed to keep an eye on him in the night? She said not to leave him alone, but how 'not alone' is 'not alone'? He is rational but very sad - suffering with depression after a series of bereavements.

I want to ensure his safety but would going around hiding medication in front of him (as, since I can't leave him, I can't do it without him being there iyswim) be appropriate? I'll do whatever it takes to keep him safe, but don't want to treat him like he's in some kind of trouble, when he's just very vulnerable right now. He's watching TV atm, hence I can ask you guys without him seeing what I'm up to on my laptop. But I might disappear if he needs me. Thanks in advance. Feeling a bit awful and helpless...

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Besom · 28/09/2012 17:44

Sorry to hear this, no wonder you're angry! Blimey, she isn't going to win mother of the year award is she? I haven't got time to type much, just wanted to respond and will try to come back later.

becstargazeypie · 28/09/2012 18:16

Thanks besom. I've calmed down a bit now! I was a bit beside myself this morning... Im going to have to come up with a plan of what support I can offer this boy while still being fair on DS and DH, holding down my job and not getting overwhelmed with stress myself.

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Besom · 28/09/2012 19:06

See what professional help is available, if he is ameniable to it. You can only do what you can do and as you say you need to look after yourself as well.

NimpyWindowMash · 28/09/2012 19:56

Very Angry on your behalf. Vulnerable young man not being taken seriously by his own mum.
I think you just being around for him should he need you and caring about him is a really positive thing. But hopefully there is some professional support available for him too.

becstargazeypie · 29/09/2012 13:54

Thank you both. I'm going to look into what there is in our area in terms of counselling, support groups etc and just help him navigate the system when he gets back tomorrow. Do you think it's worth contacting the psychiatrist at the hospital who discharged him earlier this week? Maybe ask her to send a letter to his new GP so the GP knows the history and takes him seriously? Or would I be interfering? I'm taking DS to visit his GPs the day after tomorrow so I won't be around for a few days. But I just can't be around all the time...

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Besom · 29/09/2012 14:17

It's not interfering if you get permission from the young lad. Hopefully this letter will have been sent anyway, but no harm in making sure.

Besom · 29/09/2012 14:19

Have just realised he doesn't have a gp yet, in which case yes would def be a good idea to make sure this connection is made.

NimpyWindowMash · 29/09/2012 14:39

Yes, very good idea to make sure a letter is sent to the new GP, and given that he is 17 and practically an adult, you should tell him that is what you are doing.
Of course you can't always be around. Perhaps he can agree to a plan of action if he is feeling suicidal. Eg call Childline, or other helpline for young adults such as CALM, present himself at A&E, etc

mermaidbutmytailfelloff · 29/09/2012 14:56

At his age he will still be classed as a child and dealt with by CAMHS (Child and adolescent mental health service) - I was told until my DS was around 19 they would still care for him. A referral to them might help? So yes, getting an appointment with a GP. CAMHS can provide counselors and advice for carers too.

becstargazeypie · 30/09/2012 08:35

Thanks all. I hadn't heard of CALM. Just looked at their website and I think that will be a good resource for him. I'll tell him I'm sending an update note to tell the psychiatrist that he's back and the name of his new gp as soon as he has one... His mother isn't speaking to me now and has told someone in family that I'm being 'very unsupportive'. Sighs ... Im packing to go visit the ILs for a few days from tomorrow. They are lovely - cant wait for a hug from my MIL.

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