I am emotionally abusing my DP, i need to let him go, but i love him

[TheCalmingManatee]

I have finally realised that i have made the last 7 years of my DPs life hell. I am doing the same to my DD.

It goes against everything that i want, i adore him and her but they would both be better off without me.

If i were to write things from my DPs perspective people would tell me to "leave the bastard" that i am emotionally abusing him, i know i am - i don't know how to stop - but how the hell can i leave my DD, even though i know its for the best.

The way you've worded this post sounds very much like depression to me. You are talking in absolutes. Chances are you have made their life tough recently because you are feeling ill and in the past you have been a good parent and partner.

It's unlikely to be for the best that you leave DD. More likely the best for her would be for you to be well, so you don't drain your family emotionally. It's a sign of empathy that you can feel such concern for them. If you were such a bad person you wouldn't acknowledge how hard it can be to put up with emotional ups and downs. You'd think only of you, and you don't. That suggests to me that they'd be far better off with than without you.

Don't make any decisions when you are down that would seem foolish when you are feeling fine.

Get some support fast and go as easy as you can on everyone - yourself included.

Thank you racing - i agree, i am not a bad person, but i am like a poison to my family. I love them so much but im destroying them. My DD is seven, she still has time, my DP deserves a partner who will support him, not drag him down. I don't have many options and im terrified, but it will be over soon.

Can I ask any specifics of the situation? Like what you feel you are doing wrong? X

i have another thread sades, it speaks for itself

but thanks for the reply - i wish i could change, but i can't

I have read your other thread.
Did you check with CBT about going on ADS?

Manatee - which is your other thread?