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I can't fight this fight any longer.

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FrothyOM · 13/09/2012 06:48

I have a history of mental illness going back to my teens. These episodes come and go. I have taken numerous overdoses. The worst one was when I was nineteen, I am 34 btw, and ended up in intensive care with liver failure. It is not attention seeking. My mental gets so unbearable I just need it to stop, but once I have taken the pills I always get scared. I don't seem to be able to inflict pain on myself, so can't slash my wrists.

At the moment I cannot sleep. My brain just seems to be over-active, i feel like I'm running on nervous energy. My thoughts are all over the place, when I try to focus on something I get distracted by random thoughts. I can't concentrate at all.

I can't care for my kids like this. My concentration makes it hard to be organised. I forget where random things are, i forgot to pack nappies to take to my sons nursery, go out shopping and don't have my purse. I can't prepare meals without fucking them up. Last night I bought a frozen pizza for my kids tea, and burn't it. They were so upset when they thought they were getting pizza and got a cheese sandwich.

I am becoming one of 'those' mums. Who feeds her kids shit ready meals instead of cooking. I do things like prepare a healthy stew and forget to switch the slow cooker on! Am so agitated I end up yelling at the kids in public. I am a scum mother.

I feel so irritable and snappy. It's like I'm physically agitated and can't relax. I can't link this to anything, past or present, these episodes come out of the blue. I get really tearful too. I have paranoid thoughts and, in the past, have become hallucinated voices and believed absurd things.

My first diagnosis was recurrent depression with psychotic symptoms. Then my psychiatrist changed. I went to her with an episode like this and asked for help sleeping. She said she wouldn't prescribe anything as I had borderline personality disorder and the only help is CBT. She basically said I had made manipulative suicide attempts and had a history of being verbally abusive. The verbal abuse has been a few incidents when I was paranoid, irritable and though staff were having a go at me. It was a few times in hospital, not a regular feature of my personality FFS. I basically felt she was palming me off onto a psychologist because she didn't want to deal with me.

I got worse and worse so she sent the home treatment team in to 'support' me. I was going through what i am going through now, but they wouldn't give me medication to help me sleep! I got worse and worse and ended up slamming my door on the home treatment team. I also screamed at the psychiatrist. They told me to go to hospital or be sectioned, so I went.

In hopital they gave me olanzapine and lorazepam so I finally got some rest. The olazapine made me feel like I had restless legs. I had to keep shaking them or pacing. When I told the P she said it was cannabis withdrawal and I was not sectioned and didn't have to take it. She didn't offer me an alternative so stopped. Eventually I let them discharge me as I couldn't change doctor or get a second opinion.

I went a long time being well. Three yers ago, after the birth of my son, I started to have these episodes frequently.Have tried loads of different antidepressants, none control it. Some make the agitation and sleeplessness worse.

I'm on my second episode in six months. Have been assesed a few weeks ago, when feeling well, by nurses. They decided to send me to the consultant for a definative diagnosis and reassesment of symptoms. I've now relapsed, my GP has given me zopiclone 3.5 mg but it's doing sweet FA. She has told the MH team it's urgent 3 days ago. I think this may be mixed episode bipolar. (bipolar in the family) But I never get euphoric or enjoy the feeling. Can you only ever get mixed episodes??? If this is the case i might be treated and be functional again if on the right drugs. If not, I have nothing to live for, because antidepressants either do nothing or make me worse.

I just can't cope. I can't look after myself let alone my kids in this state. I am on lone parent benefits but will be required to seek work next september. I know I am unable to work during these episodes but also know I want get enough points on the Work capability assesment with the symptoms I have.

I know if I turn up to a job in this state, my concentration will render me useless - i tried volunteering in a charity shop and couldn't focus on the right buttonds on the till and kept ringing through the wrong amounts on the till! I would be so slow there would be a massive que forming and I would make mistakes even when going really slow.

I am worried I will get sanctioned and have my benefits cut if I get fired for being useless. Or go on workfare and be useless. I can't cope with being a bad mum,not being able to work however hard i try, and feeling like this.

I keep thinking of doing it properly this time by hanging myself. I don't want to do this to my kids but feel I have no choice. I don't want to call for help as i don't want to be thought of as attention seeking again.

Sorry this is long and rambling, cant concentrate and it's taken me ages to write this. I have been up since 3 am after going to sleep at 12!!!!!

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CatsInChaos · 13/09/2012 06:59

Sorry you feel like this.

Have you tried to write things down? I find this sometimes helps just to get things out of my head then things start to make sense a bit more.

I need to go now but hopefully someone else will pop in.

{{hugs}}

FrothyOM · 13/09/2012 07:25
Thanks

I am off on the school run soon too

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ImNotCute · 13/09/2012 07:32

Sorry you're in this state. I'm around the same age as you and have also suffered with depression since my teens. I made 2 suicide attempts in my early 20s. Your kids need you, they really do- you are critical of your parenting but that's probably the depression and lack of sleep, not the truth about how good you are for them.

Sorry- difficult for me to write more now as kids demanding my attention! Would you consider presenting to a and e as your situation does seem quite critical? What support do you have from friends and family? How old are the kids and are you getting all the help with them that you can? I'll try to check back in later and hopefully you'll have had lots of good advice and support.

tabbycat15 · 13/09/2012 09:37

I'm so sorry that you are feeling like this. Could you speak to your H/V or see another GP? You really need someone to listen to you & to get the right treatment. I know the health care in the UK especially M/H is bad. I only got the help that I needed when I emigrated to Australia. You really need to see a psychiatrist as they are much better with meds than a general Dr. It does sound like Bi Polar but it seems you need your mood stabilising & help with your sleep.
You can get well, you just need the correct help. Have you got a friend that could go to the Drs with you?

FrothyOM · 13/09/2012 10:08

I'm waiting to see a psychiatrist. I think I will ring the duty worker and see what they say.

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orangeandlemons · 13/09/2012 11:55

Wonder if you are bipolar 2? I think it is called soft bipolar, usually presents as depression, and maybe long term, but may have one episode of being high. Racing thoughts and lack of sleep make me think this.

The restless legs you describe sounds like akasthia which can be a normalsside effect of those type of drugs, so don't what your doctor was on about with cannabis.

I believe Lamactil is the best drug for this condition and apparently makes you sleep. It's not an Ad, but an anti-seizure med ( I think).

HTH

orangeandlemons · 13/09/2012 12:05

www.livestrong.com/article/83580-characteristics-soft-bipolar/ soft bipolar.

www.smj.org.uk/1001/aka1001.htm akasthisia

FrothyOM · 13/09/2012 16:56

psychiatrist has prescribed seroquel. She seemed helpful and is keeping an open mind about my diagnosis. Feeling a little more positive about getting on top of this thing - whatever it is!

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ImNotCute · 13/09/2012 19:39

Glad you're feeling a little more positive. I hope the seroquel helps, best of luck with it.

EndoJ · 14/09/2012 00:52

it's disgusting how people can be so insensitive and not understand you. I have anxiety disorder, it's not as severe as yours, but you are doing well because you care about your children's welfare and are doing your very best.
There is help out there although the NHS has far to go with regards to mental health. Maybe call NHS direct at a time like this. Hope you feel better soon, love xxxxx

FrothyOM · 14/09/2012 18:33

Had a good nights sleep and my concentration has improved already.

Thanks everyone.

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tabbycat15 · 15/09/2012 03:03

Glad to hear that you slept well & are feeling better.

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