How to stop comparing yourself to other people

[Handmer]

I'm not sure if this is the right place for this, but I feel a lot of my mental health is affected by frequently comparing myself to other people - not really in terms of looks, but in terms of achievements - people who are in higher positions, people who might earn more, people who do things that might be more superficially impressive.

I'm reasonably successful in my own field, so why do I do it? Does anyone have any tips on how to stop it? I'd be really grateful

Watching this with interest, both for myself and a dear friend.

I do this all the time OP!

I found that CBT really helped me to challenge these perceptions as I had very low self-esteem. I still compare myself but I am now equipped with the 'other voice' which enables me to be more balanced in my views. I would imagine a large majority of people do it but may not allow it to dent their confidence.

I am always astounded at how others perceive me, I must be good at hiding my insecurities ;)

I think that people might not look at me and think I'm insecure, but so often I'm racked with worrying about my job, what I've achieved. On the outside, I think I look relatively confident.

Thanks for the advice

It's a bugger. I like most people and generally "perform" ok socially- remember niceties, to ask about others' dcs etc. was at a lunch yesterday w some mums haven't seen for a while and one mum frosty and "chippy" somehow as usual with me completely ignored me unless it was to answer something about her life, kids. To add insult to injury, shes NOT someone I respect (tho i don't show it and am always polite) she's v self absorbed, a huge show-off/moaner, has no hobbies/interests/views on much and is rather overweight and dowdy yet likes to bitch about others appearance..I know I sound like a bitch myself but tbh I can't help wondering what she has to be do proud of? I wouldnt judge her so if she were nice! Or had any redeeming features that she bothered to show me rather than be so rude...
I honestly think its mainly her problem, she had an inferiority complex-first time abroad, only non-graduate etc etc and her defense seems to be only to bother with "useful" people
I guess some people are just like that, but I always compare myself, wonder why they react as they do even if, as in the case above, I don't respect the person, still, stupidly, upsets me.

I'm a work in progress and do is she, as are most of us, I guess.
Don't know if that helps!