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Anxiety and suicidal thoughts - what now?

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MyLeftButt · 22/08/2012 22:53

I am so bloody anxious at the moment, but I've caused so much stress to friends and family during my illness that I really don't feel I can lean on them again.

I've been hospitalised and under the crisis team and now have a MH SW who I see a couple of times each month. The problem is that I've lost confidence in my own judgement. After all, I had no idea how ill I was until I was admitted, so how can I judge how things are with me now? I don't feel that I can really talk to anyone about how I actually feel as they've all been through enough. Being friends or family of someone with mental illness is draining, and I am very aware of that.

The current anxiety is due to me having to start back at work in a couple of weeks when I just don't feel ready. Unfortunately its not the kind of job that lends itself to light duties and I have to go back as I'm the main breadwinner. Its a recipie for anxiety a-go-go.

I went to see work a couple of months ago so there was plenty of time to plan my return, but they did nothing about it and now I am expected to start back with no phased return in place. This has caused the anxiety to return, although I'm on a shed load of psych meds I'm back to looking at bridges again. Scary shit as I was pulled off one before admission last time.

I really can't go down that route. I doubt that my marriage would be able to stand it and the children are already affected by my long absence. However I don't have a plan B and the thought of work is making me suicidal.

How do I get through this?

I used to enjoy my job. I used to be described as highly competent and effective. Now I'm a "vunerable adult" with a social worker, who panics at the thought of walking into my work place, especially after such a long absence. I don't want to be this person any more. I want to be me again. I hate what this stupid illness has done to me.

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miniegg1980 · 23/08/2012 06:12

I'm sorry, I have no advice really, just wanted you to know that you're not alone. I know that feeling of wanting to be 'me' again. I don't even know where 'me' has gone. I am the main bread winner too, so I understand that feeling of pressure of having to go back and get on with it. I was a wreck when I went back to work fulltime after DS1, but after a few months I found it really helped with my mental state. I found I could be me at work and mummy at home. Have now been off with DS2 for four weeks and am meant to be popping into work later today and really don't know if I can.

Anyway, I dom't want to bang on about me [embarrassed] just wanted to offer some support / hand to hold / hug x

MyLeftButt · 23/08/2012 14:41

Thanks for replying. I just needed to get it down somewhere anonymous. I've tried to go back to work twice so far this year. The first time I couldn't make it out of the car. The second time it pushed me over the edge into severe depression.

I suppose it may be third time lucky and I'll be OK, but work really aren't helping by leaving everything to the last minute.

Thanks for sharing. Its hard being the main breadwinner isn't it, especially when you're unwell.

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