DH and kids away....

[puddytats]

Giving me a taste of life on my own. I don't want to be alone, I don't want dh to go to prisn. I need him here by me, the children need their dad. What will i do without him? How will our relationship survive such a seperation? We are strong now but people change and if we are not changing together what will happen?

How will the children manage a relationship, how can i take them to prison to visit their dad? How can I walk out the house every morning knowing everyone is looking and judging me?

How will we survive?

Why is this happening? I have to be so strong for dh and the children, all i want is for everything to go away? who is strong for me? How can I be strong on my own when it is unfair he goes anyway as we did nothing wrong?

What happens if i am convicted too? How can they seperate me from my children, i carried them, gave birth to them, they are me. I will be like ripping my heart ou. I will destroy 2 innocent children.

Thankyou.

PT, have no idea what's happened, but what a thing to be carrying round - you poor thing

Don't know how to do link but puddytats police problem in legal matters explains things.

I am so scared.

Are you sure he will go? Surely it's unlikely you'll both go? \link{http://www.prisonadvice.org.uk/\googled and found this maybe it'll help}

Thankyou wvw. If we are both found guilty we could both go.

Am sat her crying my eyes out. Cannot be weak infront of dh as he has so much to contend with now, I am alone so can let go.

Hang on, just skimmed your other thread, isn't it unlikely you'll both get custodial sentences? And even if he does (why would you?You didn't work there) it'll likely be an open prison, this is white collar fraud, surely it's not likely to be Dartmoor is it? What does your legal person say? I'm assuming you've got one.

He thinks that dh should plead guilty as the weight of evidence is so strong against him and if he pleads guilty he will get a lighter sentence. There is a 50/50 chance i will be charged as an accessory.

puddytats i have read your threads & never posted, i feel so so sorry for you & your family, life is so so cruel i can not believe somebody can be such a bastard & destroy & family & just live through it with no guilt.

I really dont know what to say as nothing is going to make it feel better, i just pray to heavens above that the outcome is not to bad, you & your family soo dont deserve this, its easy for people to say stay strong but to be honest in a situation like this there is no way you can i am so so sorry

But if he isn't then he shouldn't. But hey, am no lawyer. I really doubt a judge would send both parents to prison, I really do.

Is there any lawyers or judges or anything on mumsnet? have they given you any idea of a maybe outcome?

I completly agree. His is innocent, why should he plead guilty. But we have to prove a negative while the police only have to prove reasonable doubt. I am so unsure of what the future holds, all i can see is us both being seperated from the children. dd is only 10 months, ds only 2. What life are we giving them?

Where is cod? She is a JP..

Going to bed now. With any luck i might not wake up tomorrow morning.

Oh yeah forgot about cod......

Puddytats - where is your dh & the kids?

Puddytats - are you feeling any better this morning? You are coping with all of this remarkably well but it is bound to overwhelm you especially when you don't have to hide your feelings from the children. Hopefully today will be a better day for you - when are DH and the children back?

Puddytats, I'm so sorry - I wish there was something I could do - will try to think of magical solution, but am sure that you've thought of loads.

Have you gone to the media?

They are back later today, have been to mil's for a few days.

Putting face back on and pushing emotions to the back again so i can face them later.