DP has PTSD & can't cope with DD's crying.

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To cut a long story short...

DP was attacked 3.5yrs ago which has left him with PTSD, Anxiety, etc which wasn't diagnosed until 18 months ago. He can't take any medication as he's really sensitive to meds and trips out on paracetamol. DP also works from home

DD is 11 wks old and borderline high needs - am EBF and she won't settle anywhere other than on my breast. Am also co-sleeping to make sure we all get sleep at night. She also seems to be teething early.

When she decides to kick off, DP really can't deal with her screams. I'm struggling with being a first time mum (DP's 2 DSs, 13 & 6, also live with us) and starting to feel like if I'd known that babies wound up DP so much that I would have decided not to have a child of my own. This is starting to make me feel really down along with crap to to with ExP (was treated for depression 3 years ago, before DP & I got together). I don't feel like I can discuss this with the HV as I'm worried about setting off red flags for SS and DP's quite proud of the fact that SS weren't necessary when his ExW walked out on him & his DSs.

Any advice?

Thanks for the reply greentrees. DSS1 is usually out playing with friends or on his xbox, but is away camping for a couple of nights. DSS2 is back & forth all day playing out on the street with his friends. DP's DM has said she'll have them for a week so give us a break and spoil them rotten

DP's GP is useless - didn't chase up anything re DP's MH after the attack, and it was only at DP's insistance that he got any help at all. He's had some CBT from the MH clinic, but that stopped when I was in early pregnancy. He's waiting for his next appointment with the psychiatrist which has been delayed twice since April - should be in September now. He was previously having weekly meetings with a nurse which are now optional - I've gently broached the subject with him about having a session or 2 to help, but he's playing the tough guy card at the moment.

On a good point, DP (& I) feeling more positive today after a better night's sleep - woken up about 4 times instead of the usual 3 (2 pooey nappies), but an earlier night meant we're more rested. Am taking DSS2 out for the day to give DP a chance to work in piece.