Being alone all the time is horrific :(

[Bubbless]

Ive posted in mental health before, but for those of you who dont know very brief background

been depressed for 5 years
was on antis and kinda coping until i found out i was preg
am now 19 weeks
i work in a school so on school holidays at the mo
had 10 weeks off prior to this with hyperemesis

i cant deal with sitting at home all day
its making me So depressed
DP is at work
i dont have any friends
i have a car but no money to do anything

help :(
can someone tell me il survive please?!
very melo-dramatic mood

Sorry to hear of your plight Bubbless, it isn't a barrell of laughs when you have a rough pregnancy on top of everything else. What is your neighbourhood like? Anyone decent you could ask in for a coffee/chat?

I know money helps with many things but it's not always needed. Do you go to the library to see if there is anything going on. Are you in a church? I know not always the most buzzing of places (well, mine isn't) but it is some company. Have you thought of a pen-friend, which could lead to a phone/meet up with friend?

I know it's hard, I have felt like you on many occassions, I have found busying myself with hobbies helps also. I hope you feel better soon.

Where do you live?

are you still on antis?
can you tell us what hyperemesis is briefly so we dont all have to look it up.Apologies if I am the only one who doesnt know what it is.

I can understand why you cannot sit at home all day,and no friends

can you afford to drive to see someone or does the illness stop this
why do you think it is that you have no friends.

How about signing up for some form of workshop - either a crafting/scrapbooking style thing or to learn a new skill. There are funky new knitting circles popping up everywhere these days. x

I'll tell you that you will survive and i will tell you that you will look back on this time wistfully once baby comes along and you don't have a minute to yourself - really, thats the truth. The baby will of course be wonderful but you will miss time to yourself.

With that in mind, think about things you like to do now that you might not get to do for a bit once baby comes, they don't have to cost much (anything). Maybe go for a walk in the country? beach? Take a book to the park/beach/coffee shop and read it, be decadent.

Look up old friends? Do stuff with family? How about using this time to decorate the nursery (if you are to have one) or scout around to get bargains in terms of cots and baby clothes (you would be AMAZED at the beautiful clothes that you can buy for babies in charity shops, they wear them for such a short time, its heartbreaking that some never get reused).

Try and make sure you plan something for the next day, every day - i suffer from anxiety and the worse days for me are when i have no plans.

This will pass, you'll be OK x

amillionyears hyperemesis is basically where you are sick ALOT!!!

OP i hope you are over that stage now - horrible.

thank you so much for your responces!

senses i live in a pretty rough neighbourhood, there is a lady upstairs with a toddler (flat!) who is nice, but seems to be very busy all the time, although if i see her / anyone from my building i do try and chat with them for as long as possible!
i go to my library as i used to be a part of a book club there, many years ago! but people move on.. i went to the current book club a few weeks ago but it was all very judgey 12-15 yr olds who evidently didnt think that a planned baby at 20 was acceptable! felt very alone :(

amillion not still on antis, unfortunatly my dose was so high and id been on them for so long that the docs were really unhappy for me to stay on them / equally as unsupportive of my wish to go onto something else to bridge some of the gap!!
sorry, extreme sickness- was in and out of hospital with dehydration etc :(
thankfully passed a few weeks ago!

i go to church on a sunday, and love it, involve myself as much as possible but everything is only on a sunday!!

i spend as much time with my family as possible but my mum is disabled and requires a lot of help, so spending time with her very quickly ends up in me acting as a carer :((

thank you so much for listening! makes a difference just to know someone cares enough to write a reply..