When to call crisis?

[ReallyNotCoping]

I really don't think I am doing too well. Totally on edge with the kids (not without good reason) and not reacting well at all. At the point where I am worried my lack of coping is going to affect the kids well being. Not in a hurting them way, or in a neglectful not feeding them way, but in an emotional nurturing way.

Single mum, health problems, crap mental health, so not really got anyone to turn to. My best mate is in another country for a month on holiday, can't really call her and she's not online.

Have been in touch with the mental health team, and I have an appointment on the 13th, although I went in as an emergency well over a month ago, they have managed to mess up again and again with appointments and contacting me.

Hardly sleeping at night, wanting to sleep all day, and finding ordinary stuff like washing and dressing an effort, so I know there's a problem.

Do I call crisis? Or do I keep limping on?

Hi there OP - I think you know yourself that you need to get some help, would your GP be able to see you ? perhaps he can help to get your appointments sorted properly with your MHT ?
Hope everything works out ok - sending hugs to you - keep strong xxx

Crisis team should be able to help...

If you feel that it is a crisis - then, it is a crisis.

Contact whomever you feel most comfortable with.

I am really impressed that you are so pro-active, as will your contact of choice. They'll always be glad that they see you sooner rather than later.

hope you feel better soon.
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Worth a ring, they can speed up referrals and provide short term support. If you feel that this is a crisis it is.

I have a number to call over the weekend if I find myself not coping. I am going to take it steps at a time, and if I get as bad as I was this morning, then I will consider it a crisis and see GP/duty psychiatrist.

I have a number here for the rape and incest helpline that's sat here for ages, I am sure they'd be perfect right now, but I am too scared to call them. Pretty sure everyone is fed up with this by now from me... my life has been one big roller coaster with all the ups and downs and ending up right back where I started.

Hitting a milestone birthday and really feeling like I've achieved nothing, and like I am a let down to my kids that I can't even deal with the summer holidays without a breakdown.

Give yourself a break.

You are having a hard time. You are not well - and dealing with that sensibly.

Give yourself a break, and I hope the weekend is good to you.

If you call the telephone counselling number that crisis gave you then your local CMHN will be notified - hopefully that means they will get in touch sooner.

How you feeling today?

I am finding it easier now I've allowed myself to expect nothing, break it down into manageable chunks, and go easy on myself and the kids.

Had a shouty moment earlier where I threatened to go back into that downwards thinking cycle of the kids not giving a crap about me or anything I do for them - my littlest cut some holes in the only quilt cover I have that fits my current quilt, when my eldest was supposed to be using the scissors, then I noticed there were holes in their tops too. But I realise that it's to be expected and it's not because they are horrid, just kids, I've had my shout and gotten over it.

Been able to clean a bit today too, and it's gotten my mood up. It's just being unable to wake up that's worrying me. The kids shouldn't have to worry about their mum not being awake, but no matter how early I go to bed, I can't switch off and then when I am exhausted and I can't do anything but fall asleep, I go and end up sleeping well after the kids get up - and it's like I can't physically do anything about it - I've set several alarms and still managed to sleep through them. I am sleeping downstairs so at least I am in the same room as them when they come down from bed, but I feel really guilty. It's all come about because of sleep problems, mostly nightmares, meaning I am becoming avoidant of bedtime.

Certainly not feeling as if I am In Crisis right now, just on the edge of it when anything that isn't typical happens. I can make it until Monday now. I've even cooked tonight, which I am sure the kids will appreciate, given last night's yoghurt, melon, strawberries and grapes for dinner.

It's funny how getting some cleaning helps, isn't it? These are the things that grind my mood down too - but it's not easy to get motivated...

Kids cutting things - yep. I feel your pain.

You can't avoid sleep, you'll not manage for long with that schedule. I presume you've done the usual no-caffeine-after-5pm, plenty-of-exercise, bit-of-relaxation-before-bed-that-doesn't-involve-a-screen, bit-of-lavender-essence and all that?

Is sleep and anxiety issues a side effect of your medication? You going to chat to your GP about it?

Sounds like you are doing really well. Anyway, if it's any consolation - your kids got more of their 5/day with that dinner than mine did...
hang in there.
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