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Struggling after mc

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Betyboop9 · 31/07/2012 17:18

I had severe pnd and as a result my sons development suffered, however I got better and my son is perfect for his age (eczema grrr see other posts). I have ups and downs as normal but I had a mc in April and from that I feel like I've been knocked back about 10 steps. I love my boy and honestly he is the only thing getting me out of bed in the morning! I keep my house clean and him happy but when he goes to bed I just get so down. My own grandmother fobbed me off and accused me of not thinking of my exp. she wouldn't talk to me for weeks after we had broken up. I genuinely feel very lost and just going through the motions. To make things worse there is a girl in my town who is a heavy drug addict and pregnant with her second child. I know it's horrible but I keep thinking why couldn't I have mine when she can have hers! I keep longing for another child but I know that's not the way to go. I just need to know that these feelings are normal, I don't understand why I haven't gotten over this yet. Okay things are tough ATM but I do have things in my life to be happy about,I just can't see them

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hairytale · 31/07/2012 23:03

Mc is a very difficult thing to cope with. It sounds like you're still grieving - have you had any counselling?

greenwichgroove · 31/07/2012 23:10

Oh love you are grieving and its perfectly normal to feel how you do about the addict.

I think with a MC people don't take it as seriously as they should. Please take time for yourself and consider counselling if you feel speaking to some one would help. You sound like you've been through a horrible time.

Sending love and strength.

greenwichgroove · 31/07/2012 23:14

I meant other people don't take it seriously.

GoodButNoMedals · 31/07/2012 23:16

I had a mc in April too and I feel pretty much the way you describe. Everyone expects me to be completely back to normal but while I do everything I'm supposed to do I feel like I'm just going through the motions. I agree with greenwich that people don't take it seriously the way they would any other bereavement. I'm considering counselling but I'm not sure if it will help or not, maybe it will.

Springforward · 31/07/2012 23:21

It is normal, you lost a baby. Let yourself grieve for him/ her. Have you thought about asking your GP to refer you for counselling? It might help, maybe?

Well done for keeping your son happy throughout such a difficult time BTW.

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Betyboop9 · 02/08/2012 13:48

I had thought about counselling but I did it before and I really didn't like it. Firstly I couldnt get a baby sitter (lack of family support) and secondly my paranoia saw it as another way they could keep an eye on me and interfere. I am getting more good days than bad days but the bad days are awful. Really need to kick myself sometimes

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GoodButNoMedals · 02/08/2012 20:45

I don't think you sound like you need a kick. You sound more in need of a hug honestly. I wish I was closer so I could provide it for you. I want to say you need to speak to your gp about it and see what he/she can do for you, but then I feel like a hypocrite because people keep suggesting that to me and I refuse. I'll see mine if you see yours.

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