Hi, I'm just looking for some advice really. DM has been staying with us this week... DF died several years ago, at home, and DM has struggled since then, mentally. DSis has taken her to the Dr who agreed that DM has got stuck in the grieving process and DM now sees a Counsellor regularly.
DM is a hoarder - not quite at the stage that is seen on TV programmes, but there is nowhere to sit in her 4 bed house, getting dangerous for me to take the DCs to visit her etc. I have spoken to her about this and she has agreed that she has a problem with hoarding and has mentioned this to her Counsellor.
DSis used to have OCD and so suggested that DM watched the mental health series on C4 this week - we watched it together. DM surprised me when watching the OCD one and saying that, comparatively, DSis' OCD was not very bad at all (it was HORRIFIC and at least as bad, if not worse than some on the programme).
Watching the Ruby Wax programme on Monday, DM turned to me and said that she could identify with the people on the programme and suspects that she may have been suffering from depression from the age of 15 
. I have suggested that she speaks to her Counsellor about this, and she agreed to.
I'm just really wondering what other support I can give her - she lives at the other end of the country. I find her extremely frustrating at times, especially when she comes to stay, as she tries to impose her hoarding and OCD on me (and also DSis when she stays with her, which is much more dangerous for her health).
I don't want to say the wrong thing and make her more ill, I just want to help her to get better and hopefully start enjoying her life. Any suggestions?