It's only now I feel low, baby 10 weeks old & 2 others!

[Pernod]

Hi, does any-one feel the same as me? My gorgeous 3rd daughter is now 10 weeks old and I've began to feel very low and depressed. I feel very angry inside and cannot bear being in the house alone with my children, my other 2 are 6 & nearly 3. I'm finding I can't concentrate on anything and that I have no motivation for life. I can't understand why as I'm on maternity leave so no work worries and I have a fantastic husband.What's wrong with me, I just can't seem to cope.

It sounds very similar to some sypmtoms of PND.

I had this - hated going out, felt total desperation during the day on my own with my two until DP came home, when i felt much better. I felt like i was a bad parent, wasnt coping, no-one loved me/liked me, that i was just generally a bad person.

I would recommend you speak to your HV or GP at the earliest opportunity, they can do a test to assess whether you are in fact suffering from depression by asking you some questions.

PND is an illness, so dont feel guilty but do get yourself some help. It was the best thing i ever did.

HTH
xxx

Can you speak to your HV Pernod?
Did you feel like this after the birth of your first two?
Also, can you tell your dh how you feel?
Sending big hugs to you, I know how this feels x

Thanks for your reply HTH, I just feel such a failure, I know I should see my Dr or HV but I feel I will get judged for not being able to cope.

Pernod xx

(HTH = Hope That Helps )

That sounds like a classic PND sypmtom to me pernod. You dont want people to think you cant cope or do something simple like bring up children/run a home, after all "everyone else manages it".

PND is an illness and your GP and HV wont judge you or think you are a failure. They might suggest counselling or Anti depressants to help you.

Dear Pernod,

Please please do not for one minute believe you are a failure. You are a fantastic mother of three, just finding things a bit tough at the moment. I had these feelings with my first so you can imagine what a failure I felt! Wholeheartedly agree that you should see HV or Doc,they will be able to give you the support you need. Hope you have been able to discuss with DH?
My heart feels heavy at the thought of your situation so please try to speak to someone. Things will get better.
Sending you supportive vibes xxxxxxxx
Take care

Hi Every-one

Thanks for all your suggestions, I have discussed this with DH & I'm going to book an appointment to see my doc tomorrow. Wish me luck!!

xxx

Sending you lots of love and support. Your gp won't be remotely surprised at whatever you say to him/her.
As others said, please remember this is an illness, not the way you're choosing to be/feel.
Let us know how you get on
x

Hi, saw my dr today who was very supportive & confirmed I have depression. She's given me antidepressants but cos I'm breastfeeding she's given me the lowest dose & says I have to time it carefully when I take the tablet so as to cause the least upset to my 11 week old. Have any of you breastfed whilst on antidepressants & if so were there any problems? I've been given Citalopram. Also, was wondering if any-one had tried any Bach Flower remedies for depression?

I'm v.glad I've seen dr but am concerned for the future, I do you overcome depression?

xxx

Sorry, meant to say 'How do you overcome depression'!!

One day at a time.

So glad you have seen the doc, I have used Bachs Rescue Remedy in the past and still do on the odd occasion. I used to suffer these panic attacks and the rescue was a great help.
Agree one day at a time, just remember to never stop talking to people. I think when we shut ourselves off is when we are consumed. You have done the right thing and I know it will get better for you. Just take care, big hugs for u.