God I feel lonely

[ssd]

I've been feeling really lonely and isolated for a while now. I've got a great dh and lovely if hard work kids, so I shouldn't complain. But dh doesn't have a clue how I feel.

We moved here when i was pregnant with ds1 about 8 years ago. All my old friends were still working full time with no kids and a busy social life. I tried to keep up for a while but as a SAHM we're living on 1 wage and I hadn't the money also we've not got anyone to babysit except for each other. So gradually as time went on I found it harder to connect with my old pals( and probably them with me), although I have kept up with all of them and I'm pleased about that. But I find it hard to see them, most of them work fuu time and shifts and I find the only time I ever have to myself is 2 hours in the morning when ds2 is at nursery, most of them aren't really about then. So I find I've made lots of friends round here who have kids the same age as my 2. But I've never felt like I've got much in common with these women except kids the same age. Most of them are all very close or so it seems and hang out together most of the week. This gets me down as I feel I'm being with them to pass the time, not because I have anything in common. I know that sounds unfriendly but I'm a bit more working class than them, most of them will never work as their hubbies are doctors, dentists etc. and they have the big house, 2 cars, holidays all on one wage, whereas we really struggle. I'm not complaining about dh, he's great, we just don't earn much.
I just don't connect with these girls, I don't want to spend my days at yoga and the beanscene, etc.
Sorry to sound so moany, I just don't feel like I connect with anyone these days. I also look after my elderly mum, my siblings are hundreds of miles away and they do nothing. I just feel I'd love someone close to me, My family all look to me to support my mum and I take care of the kids all day. Dh's family are mega uninterested, I've tried with them and been rebuffed umpteen times.
I wish I had a sister or younger mum I could speak to, I know that's wicked as I really love my mum but I "parent" her now and she relies on me.

I just feel so sad and lonely.

Sorry you feel this way ssd. You do have a lot on your plate you know. You need to acknowledge that and also realise that as the children get older, some of your burden will be lifted. FWIW I also feel I have little in common with the people open to me socially. I cling on to the idea that one day I will be able to go back to work (even if it is only part-time) and hopefully that will bring me in contact with people I have more in common with, and also bring some much needed money into the house.

I feel the same I live in holland and have no family out here. it can be really hard cant it. You do have alot on your plate. Its hard when your friends dont have children.

thanks for the replies.

thank god I can pour it out here, I can talk to dh but life is different for him.

i feel v lonely and low too as a single mum.
i dont know what to do with my daughter when its weekends or holidays.
i feel so depressed when i go out alone with her, she needs friends and i need too.
feeling so low, i dont feel i can do anything and dont know what to do.
i would like to have friends who meet at weekends, holidays.
i want it for my daughter especially.
when i feel low i feel i cant help her and it makes me down more.