I'm not an anxious person when it comes to myself, I project it onto my kids if that makes sense.
I panic and catastrophise when they're doing things that make me anxious, I imagine all sorts of terrible (and utterly unlikely) things that will happen to them and I work myself up into a huge state.
Stupid example - I was randomly watching a documentary on a volcano in Ethiopea a couple of weeks ago and there were people right on the edge looking into this massive pool of larva and I starting thinking what it would be like if we took DD2 there, and ended up giving myself nightmares that DD2 was at the edge of this volcano and was about to fall in and there was nothing I could do to stop her - I mean, wtf?
DD1 is learning to sail with school on Friday afternoons - all Friday I work myself up into a state that she'll capsize and drown - rationally I know she's perfectly safe, they are supervised, the teachers are very, very experienced and qualified and they haven't lost one yet and she's wearing a life jacket. She's capsized several times, she finds it hilarious fun, she's not scared in the slightest so why do I get in a panic?
DD2 is swimming at school - she loves it, has no fear of water what so ever, is supervised and is never out of her depth, but I panic that she'll drown and no one will notice
DD2 was riding a scooter down a hill, I made her get off and walk until we got to a flat bit, as I paniced that she'd fall off, she was going to fast and could kill herself
We were walking along a fairly narrow footpath at the weekend with DD1 and a coach came past a little close to the kerb, instantly I had images of the wing mirror decapitating her, and off I went with all these horrible images in my head - in reality the wing mirror was no where near hitting either of us and in fact it would have hit me first as I was walking on the edge of the kerb
I panic that they're all going to die in a massive coach crash when they go on school trips, for the last few years I've avoided foreign holidays as I don't want to take them on a plane in case we crash (but I'm not scared of flying myself), we let DD1 knock for her friends, go to the shop, go to the park, but I panic she'll get lost and spend hours wandering around lost and scared, or fall and break a leg and not be able to get home - in reality she doesn't go far, the park is just the other side of our back garden fence and she has a mobile phone with her.
I could honestly go on and on all day about it, but it's getting to the point where any minor bump or scare ends up in major catastrophising. I can't just see the danger and react accordingly, I can't stop myself blowing everything up into a huge disaster
I think to a certain extent it's a reaction to my DD2, she has no fear, no spatial awareness and no internal risk assessment so I used to keep an extra eye out but it's got out of hand
I do work very hard not to let my anxiety show, and I don't stop the kids doing any of this stuff, but I can't stop winding myself up into a state and I don't know how to stop it, it just takes over iyswim