Please help me

[Scaredoftomorrow]

Please. I cannot do this. I have a post inthe relationships threaded was advised to come over here. My husband has told me he was repeatedly raped as a child,yesterday.

He needs help and I am struggling to navigate the system. There's a bit of a backstory - we are struggling with loads at present but I need help this weekend.

I need to help him. I'll try to copy and paste my original post in a minute.

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We need so much help. I'll try to keep it as short as possible.

Background: together 8 years, married 2. Early 30s.

My husband disclosed to me last night that he was raped as a child for 3 years.
We have been having problems - when times are rough he tends to lie it away. He has lied to me about employment, money, income.

He has always worked since we have been together but he lost his job 3 months ago and but never told me. I found out my calling him at work. Since then he has massively job searched but kept getting to final stages/ last few then was unsuccessful. He told me a few weeks ago that he was starting work. I found out yesterday that this was a lie.

My husband was sectioned in the past. Before he met me. Yesterday he broke down told me the truth about lots of things. Basically he creates a fantasy world when things go wrong.

We found out last week that we cannot have a baby on our own (this is obviously after a long period of trying/investigation).

We are so broke I don't know what to do.

Yesterday I called social services and emergency mental health teams. He is not a danger to me but I was/am worried that he will hurt himself. He begged me not to let him get sectioned.

I love my husband, and I know he loves me. There is no emotional/mental other abuse. Just a very, very sad, scared and worthless feeling man and a very scared and worried wife.

Please go easy on me. Please help me. What do I do? How can we make all of this trauma go away?

I do not want to leave you unanswered, I am only new to the mental health board. they helped me last weekend when I felt suicidal.

Also if you believe that your dh is a danger to himself, then as much as he begs phoning the emergency mental health team may be the only option you have.

You will not be able to make this go away overnight, however there are steps you can take to help you both deal with it.

Hopefully someone with more experience will be along soon.

Thank you - I've re posted on the relationships board, I think we haven action plan.

I also feel a bit less scared now. I'm sorry to hear about how you felt. I was there myself in my late teens early twenties. I suffered depression for years and life didn't feel worth living.

Sad thing is that things do get better. By taking control of a situation and your feelings you snowball out of it eventually assuming its not chemical depression. But I know you don't see that when in dispair. I hope you are getting professional help. One thing that helped me was doing 1 positive thing a day. Even if it was just having a bath.

I hope you feel and get better.

That's good to hear that you have an action plan. I am getting help an am getting better by the day. It is good to hear that you feel less scared.

I hope things work out for you and your husband.