Tips for getting DP to the GP

[janesnowdon1]

My P of 24 years is currently suffering form a paranoid delusion (which involves me and our DC). The GP says he can't do anything unless I can get P to come with me for an appointment.

P won't speak to me atm, very suspicious and contemptuous of me. Any tips for how to get him to accompany me so I can get him some help?

He has always been obsessional, sometimes dictatorial etc but hasn't AFAIK been in the system

Thanks

Would he go with you if you say its for you + you'd like his support ?

Thanks - That is what I was thinking of suggesting too (good to have it reiterated) - but he really dislikes me and is suspicious of me atm due to his delusion. However, he has no onelse close who he trusts that I could ask to talk to him. I was worried it is wrong to lie - but I do need to get him there.

If he's already suspicious though is there a chance he could kick off once he realises he's been duped..?

Yes he could kick off or at least just walk out. Perhaps I could say the GP would like to see us both, to get P's side of things for balance.

Anyone else had this problem or to those with problems how do you feel about going to the GP, what would prompt you to agree to go.

thanks

I'm not really here but could not let this pass. GP is being stupid. GP can ask local mental health team to come out to your home to assess him. Try googling for community mental health team in your local area and ring yourself if no joy with GP.

Thank you so much Madmouse. If I can't get P to GP will go see him myself again and request this.

Part of problem is that P is lucid and functioning well socially etc otherwise.

I thought you could get someone to come out, well done Madmouse.

What is he saying /doing Jane are you worried for your safety or that of the kids?

No, Bossybritches not worried about safety - yet. Obviously if situation progresses and I can't get him help things may change. I don't want to be specific about his delusion on a public forum as I may be outed by him.

Don't want to leave it untreated and get worse and have him say anything hurtful to the children.

As I said he is functioning normally to the outside world.

Thank you all so much for your advice. Thought I might be left alone to cope if couldn't drag him to GP's. Bit worried he will scarper if I do try- so want to really consider how approach it first.

No of course sorry, just wondered if you needed to vent. hope you get the support you need, I have a Bi-polar brother and when he is at his worst he gets very delusional & paranoid so I can sympathise. Take care.

You can def have him assessed at home by the crisis team, ring them and go from there. TBH all your GP will do is ring them (if he feels he needs further input) so I would cut out the middle man.

Thanks all for your caring comments and fantastic advice. Bossybritches would love to vent but can't. Fluffy and Madmouse will give CMHT a call tomorrow. Thought I had reached impasse - so good to know another avenue open.

No problem Jane, glad you now have an alternative option.

Hi Jane did you have any luck?

No need for details just checking you're Ok?

Hi - I'm fine Bossy. Have spoken to P about GP he says he will"think about it" but seemed quite positive about a joint appointment. He will give me his answer on Monday (of course it could just be a delaying tactic)and has been a lot nicer to me, I still realise of course that he needs help

Well fingers crossed that he isn't just delaying. I guess by suggesting a jopint appointment you are reassuring the paranoid bit of him, so maybe thats a step in the right direction.

Glad he's being a bit nicer,although still a worry.