anyone who got depression - is there always an answer behind it?

[biglips]

as ive been diagnosed mild depression before Xmas which i had it for 14 yrs as i thought it would go away this dull feeling but i didnt know i had depression..

is there an actually an answer to everyones depression? and i know it can run in the family as my aunty had severe manic depression that she took her own life 2 yrs ago... im ok as it took me a year to accept that she is gone but i dont know why ive got this depression

im waiting for counselling to help me out

Sometimes, it just happens. The same way any illness can afflict someone.

Its unfair, but thats life. I dont mean that in a harsh way, it just seems you are looking for answers within yourself, and there just might not be any.

People get ill for a number of reasons, some we know, some we dont. Depression very much falls into that category.

Counselling may well help you, although i very much believe my depression is hormone related and has spiralled down from there. But thats just me

Agree with VVV. That there isn't necessarily any reason for depression - sometimes it's a matter of your brain chemistry being a bit askew, sometimes due to hormones, sometimes due to stressful life style, sometimes due to difficult past experiences, or a combination of all of these. Counselling will help you explore this issue further I imagine.

biglips, I agree with the other two. I had two lots of counselling in the past, with no effect. It was like they were trying to find some underlying cause that just wasn't there. Finally I had ADs and admitted to myself that it was just a chemical medical issue (which my behaviours can make worse, a bit like having weak knees but carrying on playing tennis).

The other thing I always found odd is that my personality is naturally happy and optimistic, which made the depression all the more puzzling. But again, fit and active people have weak knees!

my depression is due to hormones and stressfull life, havent found a cure for it yet, wish i could

I believe there is a reason behind it - biological, emotional, circumstancial, etc. I don't know if I am 'right' it is just what I believe.

What I don't believe is that it is always worth trying to figure out what that reason is. Sometimes it can be helpful but sometimes we just need to look forwards and find ways of managing it.

I used to believe it was imperative to 'drive out one's demons' in order to understand and recover. Now, I doubt that approach is helpful for a lot of people.

To have insight is good, but answers? I don't think we always need answers.