answer me this

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when you walk down the street on your own or walk up the path to your childs school do you feel self concious?
i mean does it enter your head what people might be thinking or that they are looking at you? or are you just thinking what you might cook for tea!

also when someone walks past you going the opposite direction do you make eye contact/smile or do you put your head down / gaze the other way etc ?

sorry for the strange sounding questions but your answers might actually be helpful for me.

i do mean when someone you don't know from adam walks past you btw !!

Yes I do feel self concious when walking anywhwre on my own and avoid eye contact if at all possible.

If i am with other people I am totally fine.

I'd only feel self concsious if they were to all turn and stare at me at the school gates.

Generally I make eye contact with peopl ewhen I pass them.

oh yes think all the above and the other mums are probably thinking the same
why?

i do feel self concious all the time! Although, I usually would look up and smile/say hi to someone walking past..

Actually i don't always look away when people walk past, kind of depends what mood i'm in LOL.

my husband is in mortal fear of embarrassment - so wont do fun things like oh i dunno try and get on a lilo - in case the whole world stops just to specifically laugh at him.

i think he thinks himself way too important. i dont care - for the most part what people think in an ordinary situation like walking down the street etc. becuase i dont know those people and their opinions areof no value to me. i couldnt give a flying fuck.

i dont make eye contact uaually when walking down the street - i keep discretely aware of my surroundings and dont want to engage anyone in case they mug me for the 20p i have in my pocket.

depends if I am with DS or not. If with DS, on a bad day I feel like people are judging me; if he's crying, taken his shoes and socks off etc.

I don't suffer from depression so from my POV

Other people don't normally enter my head at all .. because tbh other people I pass in the street don't really register that much generally .. if I do make eye contact and smile it is for that moment only then I don't think any further of it ..

if someone is passing me if I happen to make eye contact I will smile or say good morning / good evening if I'm in a particularly sociable mood if not I'll just get on

HTH in some way

I will not make eye contact with males on the street when on my own unless they are with family .. but that's from personal experience which makes me a touch wary

If i sort of know them i acknowledge them depends on mood and how rushed i am. if parents of child in my class make effort to say hello. complete strangers don't really take much notice.

thanx, i sort of think that a normal person doesn't even question it and that because i do that shows i have some problems

Everyone does, festive face. I think its to what extent you do it, and how much it affects your life is the important factor when deciding if its a 'problem' iykwim.

Some days i skip cheerily down the road smiling at everyone (well ok not quite).
Other days i feel really self conscious as you describe, hoping noone looks at me etc.
Totally depends on my mood! if i have any spots, if i think my clothes are ok, if my hairs a mess etc etc

I do sometimes wonder what people are thinking about me, but not in a worrying, self conscious sort of way. In that sense, I am quite relaxed with who I am.

With regard to meeting people's eyes when I pass them, no I am sorry to say I do not. Very occasionally someone (usually an old person) makes a comment like "lovely weather" and I am more than happy to reply and smile, but I am painfully shy and don't dare make eye contact with people or make the first move towards exchanging pleasantries. I wish I could.

a bat! lol

I don't care what people think of me as a whole person, its ther problem not mine, sometimes i feel self concious about some of the clothes i wear,
I always make eye contact and smile,
Does any of that help?

constantly feel i am being judged etc very self concious