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Husband with mental health issues - feeling really lonely

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IRATICCMNN · 16/05/2012 15:31

Hi,

I've name changed to post. Long time lurker, only occasional poster. I feel a bit silly posting here but I'm at the end of my tether. I need to keep some details vague as I know a few people here.

DH suffers from an anxiety disorder. Its been on and off for a decade. After a really long period where it was all OK and managed (about 18 months?), it's come back big time. Two weeks ago he admitted he was feeling 'that way' again.

I love him, I do, and I would do anything for him to be well. Doctor has doubled his dosage, he's gone back to his therapist etc. I feel so selfish saying this but I feel so horribly alone. He's gone to his mums for a few days (I work and he is taking a few days off so don't want him to be alone for long periods).

I just started a new job so I can't talk to them. My family know but I dont want to worry them as they have had other serious things to worry about lately. My friends are OK but they ask so many questions and I haven't got the energy to answer them all over again and again, plus I feel like I'm boring them as it happens every year. I'm not sure they fully understand it either. I just want someone to give me a hug to be honest.

Also I'm really worried as this is the first ever time he's had to leave work with it. He spoke to his Head Of dept and he was apparently really good and he is taking a few days off but now I'm starting to worry - what if they make cuts there? Surely he is going to be first in line for the chop? What if that ever happens?

My head feels like it's going to explode :(

OP posts:
amillionyears · 16/05/2012 18:24

First of all, hugs.
Second, DH is somewhat being cared for right now so that is good
Third,his Head Of Dept has been really good, as far as you can tell, so that is good too.

So now we need to think about you
What would you like to do now
Read a book, have a bath, have a coffee etc
You have had a hard time of it.Tonight is about you.
If you dont have the energy for your friends right now, that is ok.You may feel like speaking to them tomorrow, or you may not.Tomorrow is another day.

cestlavielife · 17/05/2012 00:11

Speak to mind and rethink helplines they can help and advise and understand.

www.mind.org.uk/

www.rethink.org/how_we_can_help/our_advice_information/index.html

IRATICCMNN · 18/05/2012 17:02

Thank you. I did what you said! Hot bath, read a book, relaxed. It helped. Now a few days have passed his medication seems to be kicking in and he's coming home tonight and I'm hopeful! It all just came to a head - thank you xxx

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amillionyears · 18/05/2012 20:02

Lovely, brilliant.

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