What will happen if I don't go to an appointment?

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I am supposed to have counselling this morning but feel mentally shit. What will happen if anything? I don't want to phone them either. I don't feel there is any point anymore!

Thanks everyone for your replies. It has been very helpful!

I will find out for myself now as my appointment was at 10.00. Maybe nothing will happen cause noone gives a shit!

i don't think it's that no-one gives a shit, maybe you didn't get any replies as it's YOU who need to find the answer from within?

isn't counselling meant to help you with you feeling 'mentally shit' - if you don't go, you'll always feel like this, no?

I feel you have a bit of a bad attitude, what did you think would happen if you didnt go.
You sound childish with your no one gives a shit comment , good advice though UnChartered.

Thanks for kicking me when I'm feeling down!

i didn't mean to kick you, i'm trying to get you to open up

I don't think anyone is kicking you op if you are feeling mentally shit surely you would have been better going to your appointment?

If you can, give them a phone now and explain you weren't feeling up to it. It's hard to make yourself do things when you are down, but it honesty is best to try and force yourself. Phone the clinic, you'll feel better for at least letting them know what's going on.

is there anyone that can make the call for you?

Aww Cats sorry things sound very tough for you atm.
Have you already attended any sessions with the counsellor? I think if you are able to give them a ring and explain how poor your mental state is today. If it a NHS counsellor this will be important as you may find you will need to be re-referred ifyou do not contact them.
I am sorry you did'nt get any replies, sometimes this board is very slow and quiet.
Is there anything in particular that has you feeling so down and negative this morning?

Cats sorry you are feeling rubbish, but you really can't blame folk on an internet forum for not replying immediately. Perhaps you need to take some responsibility for yourself here?

I bottled out of more than one of my appointments too, not feeling mentally or physically up to it. I don't know what the logistics of where you are in relation to where your appointment is but on a couple of occasions when I really couldn't face leaving the house my therapist chatted to me on the phone for a bit until I felt confident enough to leave the house luckily for me my surgery is not that far from home and on one occasion she walked round to meet me and we sat on a bench in the park near my home for my appointment.

Hello Cats, I'm not stalking you across threads honest! :o Phone them up and rearrange your appointment. We're not kicking you, that's your illness talking.

Getting better takes time, there is no magic wand, unfortunately.

I have a doctors appointment tomorrow.

Well make sure you go the longer you leave things the worse you will feel , the world is not against you,

Speaking as a Nurse therapist I can only say that the times youare feelingthe worse are often the times that is even more important to attend appointments.

Regarding not attending and not phoning, for me it would all depend on my relationship with the patient and the stage they are in therapy. If you genuinely cannot attend I always appreciate a call. If someone doesnt then I will wait and see if they phone for another, sometimes they are discharged if they dont contact and sometimes I write to them to see whats going on.

I don't think the counselling is helping though. I'm just over 2 weeks into taking AD's. I've just had a lot going on. The counsellor can't help with toddler tantrums (my DD) or potty training or the fact that my DC prefer daddy to mummy!. My nan is in hospital. My grandad has memory loss so doesn't know what day it is. My mum has a boyfriend who I would rather have nothing to do with.

Sorry if I sounded stroppy earlier.

the counselling won't make those problems go away though, but if there are underlying issues clouding up your brain, it will help to untangle those and enable you to focus on moving on

how long have you been having sessions? and have you phoned yet?

When you see your gp tomorrow make sure you tell him/her how you're feeling. Write everything down so you don't forget. That way if you can't speak you can at least hand over the note.

Try not to worry, and make sure you look after yourself.

Cat I am sure your DC don't prefer Daddy to Mummy. Both my DS's have gone though phases of this usually at about 2.5. It is very upsetting, but now that it's happened twice I know not to take it personally!

The councellor can help with how you react to all those things, though. I hope you're feeling less shit now.