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Want to run away and hide today

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nutcracker · 15/02/2006 08:36

I can't though because my aunt and cousin are supposed to be coming to visit. They haven't confirmed it yet so I hoping they cancel. Awful really as I haven't seen them for a while.

Xp is asleep in dd2's bed (dd's are at my moms) and me and Ds are watching Fi fi.

I really want to sod off and never come back.

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misdee · 15/02/2006 08:38

getyourself and ds ready to go out. what time are the aunts meant to be there? go out before then. just get out of the house.

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nutcracker · 15/02/2006 08:39

I can't go out I have to wait in for my mom to bring the girls back, and for my aunt to ring and say what time they are coking (if they are).

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alliep30 · 15/02/2006 08:39

If you feel you need to go, then go. Put a note on the door apologising. Think of YOU for once x

alliep30 · 15/02/2006 08:40

sorry i posted that before you put about dd's

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nutcracker · 15/02/2006 08:45

You know what, Xp kept saying he didn't get what had brought all this on so I wrote him a letter to explain. Now if someone had wrote me a letter like it I would be ashamed and perhaps even want to defend myself but no, he read it, put it in the bin and hasn't said a word about it.

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totallyinlove · 15/02/2006 08:53

nutty. MEN! If I was you I would ask to rearrange today. Say you have a migraine or something. Maybe your mum and aunt could take the kids out for you for a bit then you can do what you want. Go get some fresh air etc?

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nutcracker · 15/02/2006 08:56

I would do that TIL but I already told them they are welcome to come and I hate to let people down.

I asked him to at least think about going back to work so that he can afford a private rent and he said No.

At this rate it will be me and the kids looking for elsewhere to live.

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totallyinlove · 15/02/2006 08:57

If he is refusing to work then you need to give him a kick up the arse and get him out of there. I think he thinks you wont do it again now he's back.

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nutcracker · 15/02/2006 08:58

I can't kick him out though and he knows it.

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alliep30 · 15/02/2006 09:03

That's why he's got no regard for your feelings.. You'll be amazed how strong you can be, and how empowered you will feel when you get him out.. Change the locks when he's out.. expensive, but cheaper than rent

totallyinlove · 15/02/2006 09:05

you kicked him out before. you need to find the strength to do it again. whatever you do DO NOT leave the house. YOU and the KIDS have more right to be there than he does. You will run yourself into the ground unless you do something.

alliep30 · 15/02/2006 09:06

agreed! i know it's easier for us to sit here and say it, but you can do it.. you are feeling this way because of him, and he's got you where he wants you

mummyhill · 15/02/2006 09:27

Be strong Nutty you can take control of the situation and kick him out you have done it once. Change the locks and don't let him back in.

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nutcracker · 15/02/2006 10:01

If i change the locks i will be in breach of my tenancy, plus i cannot afford to change them.

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nutcracker · 15/02/2006 11:04

He is sat reading Ds a story which is laughable cos he never bothered reading him anything before.

I am still waiting for my aunt to let me know if she is coming or not.

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mummyhill · 16/02/2006 08:20

You can request that the HA change the locks if you tell them that you are splitting up and the situation is far from amicable, unfortunatley it may take them a little while to get round to it but it may be an option.

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