feel like i am going mad

[Cazm2]

Hi first time mum dd is just over 5 weeks old. I just feel I am not coping love her but also resentful. She is suffering I think from silent reflux triying eveythiing from health visitor but not working. Gp is dismissive says its normal I know its nit. She doesnt sleep well. I feel my life just revolves around house and baby, I have been out but because she doesn't settle its so difficult. My Dh is very good stays up with her till 12_1 for last feed Mon to Fri. Otherwise my life during the weekis just making bottles trying to eat or do basic housework. I dread the evenings as I go to bed at 9 and know I am going to be awake most of night. I am sure I feel like this because dd is not right but I am so frustrated not finding a solution to helping her. My Dh doesnt think its hard and isn't very supportive. I am not sure what to do

Hi what is it that makes you think it is reflux?

Sounds like you are very tired and that makes everything look a lot worse. Do you get any daytime sleep? Does she sleep in the day?

Hi she claws at her throat, gags, grimaced with the bottle sometimes, arches her backwhen feeding generally making feeding difficukt, gets lots of hiccups and bubbles at the mouth. I am tired but just feel like my life is just the baby and house I feel resentful that mu husband can escape.

She doesn't sleep in day very fidgety and jumpy doesn't nod off

That does indeed sound like something is not right. Sounds like you are ff, I assume you've tried different milk?

Also, don't get stuck in the house. My ds had colic and getting out with him was the best thing sometimes, upright in a baby carrier against my chest he would settle down.