My friend is making me feel so guilty

[justtryingtodomybest]

I was signed off work with depression two weeks ago although I have been on ADs for a month or two. One of my friends has hardly been in touch even though she is fully aware of the circumstances that have led to this. I'm due back at the doctors on Tuesday and she text me today saying "I suppose you'll be getting signed off for another 2 weeks" - as if I'm doing this by choice. She also made reference to an incident at work just before I went off where I had a bit of meltdown. She said "we've all had them" as if I was over-reacting.

I know I'm probably just feeling hyper-sensitive but I'm really upset with her. I know she's been on ADs herself in the past so thought she might understand - although she was never off work so maybe thinks I shouldn't be either.

I would love to be at work and feeling like my usual self but, at the minute, it's all I can do to get myself out of bed and dressed each day.

Ignore her and reconsider your friendship. She should be supporting you. Try to get some support from elsewhere.

Hope you feel better soon but don't let this stupid person chew up more of your head space.

With friends like these, you need a fucking great big stick to whack them with until they fuck off to the far side of fuck.

You're doing brilliantly by addressing the problem and you do not need her support or approval.

I've been there myself, some people can't resist a chance to kick someone when they're down. You need all of your energy to focus on recovering - try not to waste any more of it on engaging with this idiot. Withdraw. If she tries to make a big drama of it (her behaviour sounds pretty provocative to me) explain politely that you are focusing on getting better.

Good luck. I have found that the silver lining to having mental health problems has been that I really know who my friends are and I have gotten better at assessing my relationships and putting my energy into those that are positive and reciprocal. It is a much better way to live.

What's it to her whether you get signed off? Unless she's your boss, in which case comments like that are way inappropriate. There is no reason to feel guilty, you wouldn't go to work with a broken leg. Hope you feel better soon.

LadyWidmerpool - she's not my boss! We work for the same company but in different departments so me being off will make no difference to her.
I have to say, my boss has been so supportive - I couldn't have asked for better.

Is it possible that maybe you are second guessing her attitude a wee bit? What you report that she has actually said/texted doesn't sound so bad...It would be nice if she were actively supporting you but it may be that it is too close to the bone for her?

Hope you're well again soon.