URGENT!talk some logic to a phobic<desperate>

[liveinazoo]

my dd is having a birthday party today
i had a text last night one of the guests cant come as has been vomiting all day.however siblings stilll ok to come
problem is i have acute vomit phobia and am freaking we will all get ill
dp suggestd telling parent not to bring sibling but i know how gutted one of mine would be if wasnt welcome at a a party cos one our lot had lurgy
i desperately need some common sense talking into meas i just want to avoid even going to the party now and want to hide
please help me

I feel your pain!!!

Can you serve the food onto plates so that there is not communal sticking hands into bowls and maybe let children do an activity so that you can make sure their hands are washed well after?

After that I'd just try and deep breathe and hope for best :)

Good luck!

Hi zoo, You can PM me or text anytime. I have posted on our other thread in GHouse.

Thinking of you x

liveinazoo,try to go with your feelings,not to fight them.
Could you get hold of Self Help for Your Nerves by Claire Weeks,for the future.If you did feel you could not invite this child,surely if you explained they would understand.It is not personal,but your OCD.FWIW my child with sn was invited to a party,and then the mother rang up and said her ds didn`t want him there because of his strange behaviour,which she then cataloged, and .Therefore it is nothing personal with you and this child.I suffer chronic OCD in the form of not been able to switch off worries,so I feel for you.If this child does come to the party,float through your feelings,accept them,take some time out to deep breath,maybe your dh could keep reassuring you that the child is OK.Have a time out room planned,eg your bedroom,with soothing music on,and go for a lie down now and again.Good Luck and above all YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!

Hope it went alright :)

Me too! Let us know x

i survived the party!

sadly as it was at pizza hut and making pizzas i had no control over communial touching and there was no hand washing first

the kids ,however,all had a glorious time

i will now try hide my panic for next 4 days,whilst watching them like hawks for signs illness

we picked up 2 rescue cats afterwardsso i have some distraction

i am keeping fingers x that it will all be ok now

thanks for the support

Ooh, thanks for updating!

Well done for surviving, know how you feel with the watching for symptoms .

Enjoy your new pets

X

Well done, I know exactly how you must be feeling!

I start CBT for emetophobia today - had it for 16 years so really hope it works! Anyone else had any success with it?

i started a few weeks ago scrumdiddlydoo
whilst im having hiccups like this its going well and im building a tolerance to stuff i never thought possible,to the point im beginning to truly believe i can i reach a place where ican function without freaking out

woulld love to know how you get on.maybe we could meet up here and swap notes/encourage each othr

What does CBT involve?
I've had this problem as long as I can remember and to be honest I can't see how anything could get me coping with it.

i started with words that link to sick ,then moved on to pictures people looking ill,then pictures vomit

im on videos from you tube now

its been a slow process but its working

well done liveinazoo and lovely to hear about your cats

pictures of kits on my profile[proud emoticon]

OMG, the thought of watching videos on youtube terrifies the life out of me liveinazoo - the first session was ok, focussed on irrational thoughts and where I think they came from. I really want it to work!

it wasnt at the beginning i did that...id have rather died

im rooting for you honey.if i can do it so can you

I hope so! Since having my LO 15 weeks ago, things haven't been too bad as I haven't really got time to think about anything else! I just want things to have improved by the time he goes to nursery in a few months as I don't want to be freaking out that he will get bugs, as I know it's pretty much inevitable. Think I could deal with him being I'll but it's the thought of me getting a bug that I can't deal with! Since being on here I've seem people talk of Motilium which I can't believe I didn't know existed! The fact I can get some of that is a comfort to me but I know it's not really the long term solution.

its very common for to worry catching things,yet cope better if its someone else who is poorly.
sadly ive been rubbish dealing my rabbleand its the only thing i rely on dp for-thats why i wanted to deal with it.
but ive had to wait til i feel ready to cope with the CBT as i knew it was going to be a challenge
mine is very deeply entrenched

Had it since I was 11, i had a panic attack (don't know why) and at the time I didn't know what it was and I felt sick with it. Kind of carried on from there. Went through a stage of having an eating disorder as in my brain, the only way to avoid being sick was to not eat! I am alot better now than I was as a teenager - I pretty much stayed in the house. Now the only things I will avoid doing are flying and going on a boat. I still get the odd panic attack (normally at the cinema or at the hairdressers) but I just want to be able to not constantly think and worry about it!