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Friends want too much from me.

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OrmIrian · 03/04/2012 11:24

I had to start taking my ADs again in February after nearly a year off. Basically I had a major dip to the point when I seriously thought about ending it all. Beginning slowly slowly to feel better. Back to running, bought some new clothes, getting a hair cut - all about raising self-esteem and confidence but I have a way to go.

While I was struggling I didn't see many friends. Didn't have the energy to dedicate to anyone or anything but my immediate family, work and keeping breathing. Last weekend I was invited to a birthday party - DH couldn't go so DS2 and I went along. The minute I got through the door I was treated to a litany of woes and worries 'Ooh we've had a bad few months... it's been really dreadful'. I listened and sympathised left feeling like I'd been run over by a bus. Next day we visited another set of friends, more or less the same thing happened re health problems. I guess they have get used to me being an emotional sponge who always listens and gives hugs but I don't think I can do it anymore. One of them keeps texting and asking when she can come over for a chat... and I don't want to talk to her.

I didn't tell anyone how I have been because it's private and not that interesting to anyone else but perhaps I should have.

What do you do when people wear you down? I feel so bad that I can't support but there isn't enough of me to do so atm.

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madmouse · 03/04/2012 13:04

There's only one thing for it

Repeat after me and rehearse until it feels natural.

'I've had a rough few months myself, we'll talk later when I'm back on an even keel'

No sorry, no explanations that you don't want to give. If they do not ask what you mean with a rough few months they are not and never have been friends.

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