what would they do if they found out?

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I have name changed for this. I was wondering if anybody knew what my GP would do i.e. sectioning, Social Services for DC if they knew I was bloodletting? A type of self-harm but with minimal outward signs so no-one finds out?

I'm stuck, nothing seems to help anymore and my Gp wants to reduce my meds. Suicide not an option as I have DC and I know it would totally mess them up. I need help but i'm lost and have tried most things, feel like I just can't go on. Why doesn't anyone get how messed up I am

Sectioning me of course, not DC

Honestly, not the faintest idea, but didn't want you falling off the active list before someone who knows comes along. Hope they do soon.

That makes two of us then thanks for bumping x

I think they would probably just think that you were using a dysfunctional coping mechanism to deal with difficult feelings. Self harm in this context is entirely different than suicidal ideation/plan/behaviour and does not pose the same risk at all so I can't see that there would be any justification for sectioning/social services.
Are you happy with the plan to reduce your medication, does the amount of medication you take have any effect on self harm ideation?
Of course there are some risks with this behaviour, would you like to work toward stopping or minimising the blood letting? Do you feel comfortable and in control of it?

Sorry you are feeling like this. They won't section you for SHing. What have they done so far? You might be referred to counselling team or mental health team, if you haven't already been.

Thanks for replying nettlemummy I only do when I feel really stuck, been doing it for years but only for a couple of weeks at a time and not every day, just reduces anxiety and I focus on 'when next' to get me through.

I guess I just thought a fairy godmother would pop up and make everything ok eventually but nothing much changes. At least I don't have to worry about the men in white coats just yet. Been there done that, doesn't help unless you need keeping safe from suicide.

Think my GP is off her trolley myself, would rather a psychiatrist take me off meds, I don't think she hears me when I say I'm not coping

Sorry grockle typing on my iPod takes a little time and didn't see you there I have has inpatient psychotherapy in a therapeutic community and a CPN. Inpatient treatment when I was younger on an acute ward but ( probably outing myself a bit here) mainly rely on my faith- sometimes I wish Jesus would get a move on and come back

Some GPs are not great with this - I told mine last week that I wished I could be hit by a bus so I could have a break and he said I seemed much better and to go back in 4 weeks Now I feel like I was making a big fuss about wishing I were dead and that it isn't really a problem at all. So, I don't know how you get them to understand that you are not coping - unless you say 'I'm really not coping...'

The men in white coats is not nice, I know. I have similar coping mechanisms - not great but when I'm struggling it helps me get through. I'm still waiting for my fairy godmother too.

Thanks grockle I think fairy godmothers turn up if you're on a balcony crying with a talking mouse, we probably don't want one to appear or we'll definitely be sectioned!

Seriously, though I think a few threads on here have made me realise things are maybe not ok between me and DH e.g consensual sex Has triggered quite a lot and to write it down would probably take a year, thinking of ringing rape crisis just to clarify as I really haven't got a scooby whether we're 'normal'.

Ah well, when life gives you lemons and all that [numb emoticon]

no one thought my DC were at risk when my (nowex)p was self harming - ie not enough to make it a suicide attempt, just cuts, blood letting... .

it was only when he directed aggression/physical harm directly at and towards DC that it mattered.

also his named nurse when he was attending as outpatient was not interested either - "if that is what he wants to do..."

if it is not visible and not done in front of DC it is not going to be a major concern - espec if you addressing the reason for doing it.

I guess that the self harm is something that you do when you feel something that is difficult for you to bear. I guess there are two issues, this first being that the self harm is something that puts you at risk and could escalate is the behavior becomes an ingrained coping mechanism. The second is that you are things that are difficult in your life that you find it hard to deal with in a positive way.
I would say that it might be helpful to speak to your GP about this and see if they can refer you to a worker from the Primary Mental Health Care team (waiting time is usually about four months depending on area), this will give you a safe space to reflect on what is happening in your life and think about if you want to make changes to areas of your life are a stressor or changes to your own behaviour in response to those stressors
Sorry if my reply sounds a bit officious. What I also want to say is don't worry too much, this is all part of the human experience and that anyone who goes through difficult things will have these thoughts and maybe self harm to cope. It does not define who you are as a person or a parent, except make you less likely to judge and more likely to listen. Take care and be kind to yourself x