Talking to partners

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I don't know if its just me but I really struggle to talk to DH face to face about personel things that are going on but could talk for hours on the phone to him.Last night was on the way to get DD1 and her BF from airport and he called me to check I was ok and we really had a good heart to heart I've always been like this. .Also hate him giving me complimemts last night I was on a downer when he came in for his dinner break.To me he put himself down by saying I'd brought up the kids almost single handedly as he works such long hours. Is it just me.

Good thread. When I finally realised I had MH issues my Dh was one of the first people I spoke to. But I have always found talking about 'me' hard with anyone, even my own Mum who is by all accounts one of my best friends! As for compliments, I am exactly the same! Dh always tells me how wonderful I am but I struggle to believe it, its like there is a part of me that hears it but feels like I need to feel it more....does that make sense? A kind of don't tell me you love me, show me??
I had therapy last year and DH was invited along for a session and whilst my therapist was praising how supportive he was being all I could say was he was being patronizing!
I'm sure he was being extremely loving towards me but my brain told me otherwise!
You sound like you have a very loving DH op, but don't beat yourself up for finding other ways of communicating, apart from face to face, easier. At least you do talk to him and don't clam up completely x