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Paranoid, over-analysing rubbish!

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OverThinkerAnon · 02/03/2012 23:46

So to cut (no pun intended!) a long story short - I have 3 lovely children under 5, I am trying to study for my Masters and I have had PND from pretty much the time I found out about my unplanned (and unwanted by my DH) 3rd pregnancy which also coincided with being made redundant. And in the last few weeks I have have the urge to SH (something I have done in the past), but as yet I havent gone down that road. And its all pretty rubbish!
But what is really getting to me is the constant over-thinking, paranoid crap that my brain just keeps churning out! I spend so much time thinking and analysing how I can be a good mother because I dont want my children to end up like me - a paranoid mess who sets her standards so high that she is destined to fail before she's even started! And because I dont trust my own motherly instincts I am constantly watching other mothers and copying how they parent their children which is exhausting!
This isnt normal is it? I feel as if I am acting the part of a mother rather than simply being a mother. And all of it makes me so annoyed with myself!
I jsut needed to write this down because I dont know how to deal with it, apart from SHing and I dont want to go down that road again.

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Chirpychick2010 · 03/03/2012 22:45

I can't believe that somebody hasn't replied to this!!!!! Please do not sh! You seem to know what's causing the trouble and seeing it in black and white may help, you need some rl help and to talk to someone. We all over think I'm terrible for it! And we are unsure if we are doing good jobs with our kids and anyone who says not is telling fairy tales, life is about making choices and mistakes but as always the key is learning! Learning from and how to make good choices and being brave to own up to your mistakes, trust your instincts and dont copy anyone as your a role model to your dcs and you want them to lead and not be lead. Find some time or something you can do where you are concentrating or enjoying it so much your not thinking! Take some time for you and clear your head and just the fact you wrote this and thinking ahead about dcs shows what a true good mother you are the more you trust in you the more you will believe. Take care Smile

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