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9 day old baby and anxiety

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NoBloodyMore · 11/02/2012 23:15

Hi everyone I wondered if anyone had any advice, my ds was born 9 days ago via c section and since the section my anxiety levels are through the roof, we're currently back on children's ward as he has severe jaundice and I just feel completely unable to cope with it, this is my 3rd dc and Ive never had anything like this before, I'm in tears all the time, exhausted, no appetite, being sick with nerves, has anyone got any tips or advice, Is this just normal baby blues or should I be worried?

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Gincognito · 11/02/2012 23:18

Have you discussed how you're feeling with your midwife? That is definitely the first step - what you're experiencing isn't normal baby blues.

Big (((((((hugs))))))))

Selks · 11/02/2012 23:22

Sounds like the best thing would be for you to talk to someone, such as your Midwife, if only for reassurance, but perhaps for support. Make the most of family or husband/partner (if you have one) and friends as well. Don't bottle your feelings up - and most of all don't panic about how you are feeling.....you're dealing with a lot after all.

madmouse · 11/02/2012 23:25

you know yourself best - it's not your first dc and you know what you are doing so take your feelings seriously and talk about them. Having spent ds's first 3 weeks in NICU/SCBU I know that it is a very stressful environment and the treatment, prodding and hospital routine do nothing to help you bond and sort yourself out. Does your baby need to lie under the lamp for hours on end? That's really tough. Mine was ko for a week but after that I could hold him as much as possible.

Speak to one of the nurses, they tend to be clued up on it. Or indeed to a midwife if you still get to see any.

leftmymistletoeatthedoor · 11/02/2012 23:28

I felt like this after dc2. I felt literally as though someone had flicked a switch in my brain as soon as she was born. It was awful.

Please talk to your midwife asap and do try and get as much rest as you can.

Hope you and your baby are better soon - congratulations.

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NoBloodyMore · 11/02/2012 23:35

Thanks, I know I'm not myself, I'm not usually at all like this, I had a really tough pregnancy with hyperemesis and then spd and it just feels like all this on top is just crap, ds is just under the lamp, but they keep waking him to take his blood etc, I don't know i was just so determined to enjoy him as he's my last baby (was sterilised during section last week) and I feel like everything's against us, I know how I'm feeling isn't normal, got no access to midwives etc in here but I'm still seeing community midwife, im not sure how much of it is just sheer exhaustion, I've been breastfeeding ds every 2 hours since Wednesday to try and clear the jaundice, just praying it's not anything more serious.

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NoBloodyMore · 11/02/2012 23:48

I just phoned my dp, he's at home with the older 2 and he's rung my mum who's now on her way to the ward so I can get some sleep, I feel so , I'm 30 years old and can't cope :-(

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Selks · 11/02/2012 23:54

Don't beat yourself up. You will cope, you're just having a wobble at the moment....blame it on the post birth hormones if you want!

But don't forget, if you continue to feel bad - get help. Take good care of yourself.

geniuswater · 12/02/2012 00:28

I was in a similar situation with ds3 this time last year - had a difficult pregnancy and when he started to become ill (nothing really serious but at the time i just couldn't help but feel overwhelmed by worry about it) after being born I just seemed to fall apart. The anxiety was awful, exactly the same symptoms you have described. My Mum had to come to my rescue too on many occasions and I am 36 but still needed her soo much. Try if you can to talk to a hv or midwife about how you feel and keep talking to those around you who are supportive. Accept help so you can rest and don't be hard on yourself, take each day as it comes and try not to worry about the next. You have been through a lot and are having to cope with a lot at a time when your are exhausted and hormones are all over the place. Sending hugs - Hope you feel much better soon - you will not feel like this forever, its a horrible way to feel I know but you will feel better, hope your lo much better very soon too, will keep you both in my prayers and thoughts xx

heliumballoon · 12/02/2012 00:50

Sounds wretched, poor you.

While you are in hospital, ask to see the specialist mental health mw. Mine came to see me on the post natal ward and was fabulous. She will have seen it all before and will offer reassurance, advice and keeping an eye on you in case things don't resolve themselves. Just get her sent up to children's ward to see you. I cannot swear that they exist in every hospital, but it is def worth you asking.
I hope you feel better soon and LO's jaundice gets better quickly.

Gincognito · 12/02/2012 06:06

How are you feeling today, NoBloodyMore?

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NoBloodyMore · 12/02/2012 09:51

Thanks again everyone, really helps reading the replies, I feel so much better, most of the anxiety does seem to centre around sleep, I stress because I need sleep and then I can't get to sleep so start feeling sick & then it escalates. My mum came up to the hospital at midnight and say with ds so I could sleep in between feeds, so I managed about 7 hours on and off so I feel great at the minute, the baby's jaundice has dropped and he's now off his sunbed so just got to hope he stays stable [, I'm going to chat to the midwife Monday at least then she's aware of what's happening etc, I'm just really hoping its because it's been such a bad 9 days, the care at this hospital after the section was shocking so I've literally had 2/3 hours a night sleep since then xx

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Gincognito · 12/02/2012 11:00

Sleep deprivation is absolute torture. I was diagnosed with PND, which improved dramatically once I started getting some sleep. Definitely still talk to the mw tomorrow though, so that they know to give you some extra support and keep an eye on you in case your symptoms don't improve.

Selks · 12/02/2012 17:34

Glad to hear that you're feeling better today. Just take life one day at a time at the moment. Having a new baby is tough, and sleep deprivation can play havoc with how we feel - and how we think.

When you start to feel anxious and you realise that your sleep deprivation is playing a part it's important to keep telling yourself not to take the negative or worrysome thoughts seriously, that it is the sleep deprivation that is causing it, that you know the thoughts are there but you're not going to pay them too much attention. Remember - a negative thought is just a thought, it's not always either accurate or the truth.

You will get through this.

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