morning all,
I really have to get this off my chest as it has kept up all night ( as if I don't jace enough travel sleeping)
Long story short, ex left me with kids 18 months ago, did not tell me, just went to work one day and never came back, I know where he is and has left the uk, although he financial supports us he has very little to do with his son, and clearly wants nothing to do with him, even his family have abandoned our son and also no longer want nothing to do with our son.
This sent me over the edge and ever since been on depressants, therapy non existent, and just having a crap time with it all. Social services are involved as a CIN level, however they are actually stressing me more than the original issue.
Last month they had a professionals meeting that I only found out about by accident, I received a copy of the minutes and 70% of what was discussed was crap and lies, and people that I had no contact with for 9-12 months?!?
The one that hurt the most was " ex partner has regular contact and provides support" huh? He's not even in the uk, what support and regular contact could he have? I apparently "demanded" a change of doctors, my surgery has 9 doctors, why would I need to demand? Basically the doctor I initially saw was not particularly sympathic, so simply booked the next appointment with someone else and been with her ever since, how is that demanding?
My sons school have lied through their teeth about his support and his progress which thankfully I can prove, they said at my sons annual review I cried at what was good news and it was an unusual reaction. I cried because it was overwhelming (always is) and I loate the senco with a passion.
I am currently taking the lea to the LGO for their failings and also appealing my sons statement, yes I have a lot on my plate and people do not understand just how mentally draining it all is, BUT for some odd reason anger actually makes more determined, it's not ideal but the injustice of it all is too much for me to leave alone and so far so good I have already won one of my complaints and awarded a settlement so that has nudged me to keep on especially if the lea/school use the old " he has issues at home hence the no progress" card, I need to prove that nothing was done in the first place,(which I have) so they can't really use that old chestnut
This has reallllly bothered me to the point of not being able to sleep, all these professionals have painted me to be some nut job simply because they want to cover their own failings. The stuff the have on me is incorrect and will fight tooth and nail to get thus rectified.
Has anyone had a similar thing happen and how did they set things straight?