How did you cope with "getting better"

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Things have progressed. I have had 3 years of therapy, 3 years of drugs. Generally all is MUCH better.
Major break through before christmas. PTSD is now significantly changed.

However, I don't know how to do this. Have come to the end of therapy. Have stopped taking my tablets. but have NO idea how to be "well"

anyone around to talk?

Try not to overthink it

Keep talking

Remember to notice when you are happy.

The hardest thing for me is welcoming back my full range of emotions... knowing that a big cry over a sad song is normal, not a "sign."

Don't have set expectations, just focus on the positives that you have achieved and make the best of each day as they happen. There is no 'finishing line' that you cross into the land of wellness or set definition of what 'being well' is. It all comes down to where you are now compared to where you were then and how you feel.
Well done for your successes on your journey so far.

thanks.
Generally I need to stick with being alive and well. But I made a mistake on Saturday and have been beating myself up about it, can't work out how annoyed I should be about it. How much I need to feel sorry etc.

I know what you mean. The birth of my ds brought back abuse memories and it turned out I had complex PTSD and needed lots of therapy. Thing is it means that I haven't been well since I was about 7!! Have had lots of intensive support from friends and now trying to work out how to be 'normal healthy friend'. Learning when anxiety is the normal slight anxiety all mums feel when their child has a bug etc.

that is just it MM, I have similar issues, I had a total breakdown and suicide attempt. All of my "known's" were challenged, I have had to relearn everything.
I understand why we have finished with my PTSD therapy but the relearning is still on going.. and scarey

I'm having therapy again now after a year and a half of it finishing Christmas 2010. I went to see a psychologist because my anxiety over ds was out of control. We worked on that with EMDR as there was trauma behind it (NICU/SCBU) then carried on with EMDR on the abuse which turned out to be far from finished with. I'm really getting there now, I'm getting angry and starting to feel I have some value so I think I will crack it this time.

I so couldn't get on with EMDR, but the things I have read it seems to have some great results.

I've been amazed at the results, the way it as has faded so many memories.

did you have the electric buzzers in your hands?
i loved the principle of it. in the end i got there doing timeline work.
going back from now into the memories, treating the offender almost the same way as i would a toddler. we had tried going the other way, from birth but my younger years were my most traumatic so we were reaching each thing as a frightened damaged child rather than a grown up who is more able to stand up to an abuser.

buzzers in my hands??? Not sure what you mean? My therapist just makes hand movements that she asks me to follow?

ooh that sounds less invasive.
you know tens machine tyoe buzzers.. she put those in my hands was just toooo freaky!

I have just at her request writte na long letter to my abuser. Thre first one was very plaintive and made me realise I was still being a victim. Then I started to get peed off first with all those people who want me to get angry and then finalyl with him. I have just rewritten the letter and emailed it to a friend with a warning about the language. So that's worked alright. She's asked me to bring the letter to therapy today. Bit daunted about that bit.